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The original was posted on /r/lifeprotips by /u/OctaviousCash on 2023-08-11 17:25:15.

I (35m) have been with my gf (33f) for about 4 years. When we met I was renting, but looking to purchase a house on my own regardless of relationship status. Since then I have purchased and have been in the house for almost 2 years. The down payment was 100% from me, and the house is only in my name (being that 2 years into the relationship I wasn’t trying to push and pressure her into buying a house together or anything, it was my plan prior to meeting her, so I simply continued with that plan). She lives with me 100% fully in the house. I have paid every mortgage installment on my own, every utility bill on my own, I buy groceries every week on my own, I buy basically every other necessity on my own. Occasionally when we’re eating out she’ll pay, but even that’s like a 85/15 split. She is employed, and it’s a fairly decent salary at that.

How do I approach her in a way that won’t be offensive to start helping financially (admittedly, I need the support). I love her, and I want a future with her, but I can’t wait until we’re married to figure out how we’re going to work through finances. But I also realize that her names not on the deed and that makes things a little awkward. Any help would be appreciated.