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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/aitaredditaccount_ on 2023-08-11 16:22:11.

(I’m 28 and my step sister is 32)

We’ve chosen to have a child free wedding (no under 18s), I know that’s not everyone’s thing - but this is what we’ve decided is best for our wedding and budget.

My sister has 3 kids who are 16, 7 and 5. When my wedding invitations went out she asked if she could bring the kids. I said sorry, but no. I thought she understood but not long later, she asked again if she could bring them. Again I said no.

I do understand that not everyone with kids can make a child free event. I’ll be upset, but I’ll understand if my sister can’t come because of it (although she hasn’t tried to get babysitting at all). This isn’t the issue. We had an argument where she called me selfish for not including her kids, especially my 16 yo nibling who was apparently very upset and saying “no one wants her”.

We have a family group chat with a lot of random family members, and she pretty much blasted me on there for not including her kids.

I got mad at her for doing that and said she needs to realize the world doesn’t revolve around her kids and she’s not the only mom out there. If anything, she’s lazy (for not wanting to stay at home with her kids or spend the money hiring a babysitter so she can attend).

It’s been really tense between us and I’ve got some people telling me I’m in the wrong here, for blowing up at her and not inviting my niblings.

AITA?