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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/One-Culture5097 on 2023-06-21 15:16:05+00:00.

A few years ago, my (30f) dad (60) went through a mid life crisis and started dating Celine, who was then 26-27, now 32. They only dated for a year but Celine and I became very close and she is still my best friend. Her being my “stepmother” is one of our running jokes, and I have her save as “maman” in my phone (French for Mum as she is French). As part of the joke, my daughter Bianca (3) calls her “mémé”, which is french for “grandma”. This is pretty harmless because both my parents and my husband’s are different nationalities and have different grandparent names, and we are not french speakers, so by the time our daughter learns what it means, she will be old enough to explain the situation.

My dad married his wife Kelly about a year ago after being together 3 years. He brought her to visit at my place for a week. During that time, Celine briefly dropped by to return a pair of shoes, and my daughter excitedly greeted her. When she left, I guess Kelly asked what mémé meant and my dad explained, because Kelly threw a fit, saying it was disrespectful to her relationship with my dad to let my daughter call his ex that, and basically said she’s still upset that she is referred to by her first name.

I think she’s acting my daughter’s age, not her own. My dad thinks it’s fair that she’s upset and that I should apologise/ make some kind of gesture. Thoughts?