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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/hairaccount0 on 2023-08-11 14:34:39.

I recently heard someone mention that they routinely go for 3 hours with their bf. I am having trouble figuring out what sex for that amount of time would even be like. What do you do to keep it enjoyable for that long?

Most discussions of prolonging sex that I’ve been able to find have been about prolonging penetration. But that can’t be the answer to my question. I already last 15 minutes, well above average, and I don’t think most women want that to last 12 times longer anyway.

When I last had a partner, we incorporated a lot of things into sex: lots of kissing and foreplay, I went down on her until she came (sometimes more than once), I used toys on her, we’d switch between a variety of positions. All of those things take time and I’m more than happy to spend lots of time on each of them, but I don’t think it ever lasted for more than an hour all told.

Some men go for multiple rounds I suppose, but I’ve never been able to do that, even when I was a teenager or in my 20s. My refractory period hits really hard (one of the top things I’d change about myself if I could). Is that what’s missing?

Of course I wouldn’t want every sexual encounter to last for 3 hours. But when I have a partner again, I don’t want to be completely clueless about how to give her a good long session. What, exactly, does hours-long sex involve?