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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Cute_Option_196 on 2023-08-11 17:37:25.

My son introduced us to his exgf who i’ll call heather 6 years ago. They were dating for 4 years, and heather was hinting at him proposing. However they broke up when my son got drunk and ranted about how much he wanted to break up with her, what he hated about her, and how she wasnt his type.

Heather went through his phone, and saw messages on how he was planning to break up with her before he went on a trip with friends. He wanted to break up with her for a while, but ever did. It was his friends who convinced him. Heather broke up with him first, and she was a mess.

My husband I love heather, and after they broke up, we were disappointed in our son but we still love in. We still talk to heather, she is family to us. She comes to dinner a few times a month, and we invite her to holidays and our birthdays. My son gets upset at this, but we kept inviting her.

My son has started dating a new girl for a few months, and he wants us to meet her for the first time before he leaves to her country and meet her family. He made it clear heather was not to come.

While i would accept that condition, I think it would be best for his new girlfriend to know how my son acted. I told my husband, and he blew up on me. Saying it wasn’t appropriate, no one wants to meet an ex, and if we focus on his past he’s never going to get a relationship, or give him room to change.

However his gf is going to meet heather sometime soon anyways, we invite her to every gathering. Heather also wants to meet my sons gf.

My husband told our son, and he cancelled the meeting.

So aita? His gf has the right to know.