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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Individual-Diet-2193 on 2023-08-12 03:30:06.

My bf m (32) and I f (22) have been dating for 2 years. He has one biological kid f(10) and non bio kid who he raised since he was m(14). His kids live 4 hours away from us and he doesn’t see them too often but loves them and try’s to call a lot. We have a baby who’s 5 months and live in a 2 bedroom apt. My name is the only one on the lease. The other BM is on drugs now and dhs is going to take the kids to a foster home if he doesn’t go get them. He wants to get them so badly but I said no. I told him I will break my lease and he needs to get his own apt and take care of them.

Some back story, I’ve been cheated on 4 times by him and the cheating stopped when I was 7 months pregnant. He really has changed and gotten his act together(so far). I make more money than he does and buy almost everything in the household. He pays his share of rent and bills (he missed one month and a half , probably won’t ever get that money). He wants his kids to come up here full time and SAYS I won’t be paying for them or anything. “They just need a place to live”. They both have behavioral issues and need a lot of love and support. I cannot give them that, I am a new mother and only thinking of my baby right now and what kind of life I want to give him. Without me he will be homeless and living out of his car. I have my own business and work full time. I consider my business my baby as well and have my hands full. I can’t have his kids here for my mental well-being and financially. Am I the asshole for saying no?