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The original was posted on /r/aitah by /u/jewelrymaker27 on 2023-08-12 11:30:17.

I (44f) have a niece, Stella (16f) and yesterday we’ve got into an argument after she found my old diaries stating I resent her and her father.

My little sister got pregnant with twins when she was 22 years old and due to it, she had to give up her dream to become a doctor since her pregnancy was high risk. I begged her to not have the babies since her body might never recover and the risk of death was too great due to her health condition.

During the 7 month of the pregnancy, it gave us hope. She was still healthy and the babies were growing, but it was too good to be true. During the 31 week of her pregnancy, my BIL decided it would be good to take my sister to the rural area for fresh air during a big holiday since it will be good for the children. I am not clear about what happened, but in the middle of the night she started bleeding.

My sister gave birth that night, but she didn’t make it because of how much blood she lost. Due to her being in a rural area during holiday, there wasn’t good doctors around and when they arrived in the big city, it was too late. My niece is the only baby who survived since she was vertex but her twin didn’t since they needed a C-section due to her being a transverse position.

I mourned my sister. I lost the only person who understood me and the only form for me to get rid of those feelings were writing. I wrote about everything I felt, including about my resentment towards the twins and their father. I believed if it weren’t for them, my sister would still be alive and graduating med school.

In the beginning there was only hate towards them, but over the years I learned how to love my niece. She is the only thing my little sister left for me, so I started to cherish her even still existing resentment in my heart.

I decided to hide the diaries inside my room, so it became a prohibited place for my niece but recently Stella went into my room when I was buying groceries and she read everything. Stella asked me if I resent her and I said that I love her but I can’t stop sometimes feeling resentment since I never stopped grieving for my sister.

Stella called me a fake, heartless person for being nice to her when I, in her words, hate her. She stormed off and went to her father’s house, in which he called me angry demanding I apologize for making Stella feeling like she murdered her mother.

I feel sorry for her, but I don’t think I should apologize since she overstepped a boundary and read my biggest secret. AITAH?