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The original was posted on /r/aitah by /u/wonderlandbrine on 2023-08-12 12:47:45.

So my ex and I divorced 10 years ago and she was fighting me for custody which was costing me a lots of money. Since she was a SAHM mother, it was an uphill battle for me. So I was discussing it with my friend and he said why not give her custody and pay child support I are gonna spend that money on kids even when they are with me.

So I calculated that renting a 3 bedroom apartment will cost me like 4000 dollars here and CS will be less for both children. I went even further and discussed about living in my car and my friend offered me to park car in his garage if I am willing to mow his lawn weekly, which was a fine deal for me.

So for 5 years I was living in my car, then I found good deal on a house and bought it and I got roommates for it too so I live essentially for free and my yearly expenses are like 5000 dollars when I earn 6 figures, as you can see this means that I have a lots of money saved.

Okay so my old house where ex and kids lived caught fire, due to her stupidity. So now she is stuck with paying high rent on another house, and mortgage of when she bought my portion of the house. She does not earn much, she can’t get mortgage for another house and she is facing bankruptcy. She asked for my help and I refused saying her problems are not my problems.

I pay CS regularly, its enough to pay rent on smaller apartment for the kids, yes after kids turn 18 she is on her own but that’s not my problem. She called me asshole saying that kids have to live lower standard lifestyle because of my pettiness. I said thats not my problem. She fought for full custody now she can take full responsibility.