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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/magmag27 on 2023-08-12 21:14:54.

To give context my brother and I were always good friends but my parents favored him over me. He was the star football player in high-school and always got the best grades, where I wrestled and joined the marines after high-school to pay for my college. He never really had things handed to him but it came easy to him, he was they only one who came and saw me when I graduated bootcamp and was the one there when I’d come home from deployments he truly is my best friend.

Fast forward a few years and I’m now out of the marines and I am a single dad and lost a leg while over seas, my brother has been the biggest help for me so when he asked me to be his best man I immediately said yes even though I didn’t approve of his wife I wanted to support him like he did me. After the ceremony me and him sat and talked, he got weird and began talking about money it’s a subject we never discussed because he never wanted it to drive a wedge between us. He claimed the wedding had put him 20,000 dollars in debt and he needs help, at first I was more than happy to help untill he said he wants me to pay it all and our parents agreed.

I was genuinely confused and irritated, it wasent my wedding it was his I reminded him and he then brought up how he’s was always there for me when noone else was, while true I was hurt but still felt no obligation to give him that much money for two reasons. 1 I didn’t have that much money even to my name and 2 it wasn’t my responsibility to pay for his wedding. He got up and left leaving me there to think so I made my decision to leave and cut ties with him and my family from that point forward. This was last Saturday and the feeling of guit has really started to grip ne but also I’m extremely hurt by him. So Am I the asshole?