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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Sensitive_Manner5696 on 2023-08-12 18:56:32.

My mom died when I was a baby so I never got the chance to remember her. My father ended up getting arrested when I was 7 months old and my family found out he had been doing a lot of shady stuff behind my mom’s back and behind the back of his best friend who he ran a business with. My father was in and out of prison when I was a kid and did some shitty things. I was raised by my maternal side of the family and cut off all contact with my father when I was 8 after he tried to use me to escape prison again. His family were never interested in me so I don’t know a thing about them.

I’m 19 now and a woman contacted me to inform me that my father had died. She sent me the obituary (where she had mentioned me) and asked if I would come to the funeral. I said no, but thanks for letting me know, I guess. She did not leave it there and a few weeks later reached out and told me she was expecting my father’s child. I asked her why she was telling me and she was like, this is your sibling and I was like by blood maybe but not in a family way and I ignored the next message.

Then she contacted me again two weeks ago. She said my father’s family had made it known they did not care to know her or her baby and she was desperate for her child to have some family. She said I was going to have a sister and she wanted me to be in her daughter’s life, as her daughter’s brother. I told her no, to stop contacting me and blocked her.

She found my number and called me and begged me to give being a brother a chance and to give her daughter a chance. I lost it. I told her that her daughter is NOTHING to me. She is not my sister. Not part of my life. Nothing. That just because the same guy got her and my mom pregnant did not mean we needed to know each other. She married a criminal who didn’t do shit for his kid and she should accept that it comes with consequences for her daughter, since there is nothing to tie her to me except blood, which is a shitty tie in my opinion. I told her if she contacted me again I would get in touch with a lawyer and see if I can make her leave me alone.

She started crying and ended the call. She sent me a text saying she was just a mom trying to do the best for her daughter and I didn’t need to be cruel to her. Someone else texted me saying I was a dick to a pregnant lady (don’t know who that was, maybe even her again because she was crazy enough to seek out my number after being told to leave me alone).

AITA?