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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Theanimema on 2023-08-12 23:01:26.

Tldr: Husband is mad and embarrassed I told my dad I’m getting tubes tied because my dad thinks he should get the snip: I (F30) have 3 kids with my husband (M36). My 3rd pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. It was early on hut it still hurt me emotionally. I told my husband I do not want anymore kids because I can’t go through that again. We agreed that he would get a vacetamy. He kept putting off. I would remind him what if I get pregnant every few months until he complained I was nagging him. 5 years later I’m pregnant. It was a difficult pregnancy. Many complications and at 30 weeks I was hospitalized and we both almost died. My son is 2 now and I have been asking my husband about getting the snip. Last night we had SX, he forgot to buy condoms and he didn’t pull out in time. I know it was dumb so please don’t remind me. I told him it wouldn’t have been an issue if he had gotten snipped years ago like he said he would. Today I told my parents I plan on getting tied. My mom is tied so she was supportive. My dad however asked why Husband doesn’t just go get the snip? I didn’t want to embarrass him so I lied and said I would rather just get tied. In the car on the way home Husband begins to berate me about how it’s my fault he can’t get it done because I use up all his paid time off making plans. We took 1 day off for weekend vacation, some days off doctors appointments for the kids, and he took off a week for my birthday. He gets 20 days PTO, and 2 weeks vacation. I reminded him of this. He insisted I embarrassed him in front of my dad. He is still claiming there hasn’t been time.

Edit: Info because my son is 2 he doesn’t want to be held. My mom said my brother needs to start making some babies, I said yes but not me I’m getting tied.

My dad isn’t snipped but he’s technically my step dad. He’s the only dad I have ever known sorry for the confusion. I was a one night stand baby she got her tubes tied before she met my dad