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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ravenmortal93 on 2023-06-21 17:31:46+00:00.

My (30m) gf “Tera” (29f) works in healthcare and makes about 6 figures a year. She has been saving a little bit of money out of each paycheck since she started working at 15 for what she decided would be her “stupid money” - essentially money that she couldn’t spend on anything practical and had to be something fun. The rule she set was she had to spend the money when she was 30. I know all this because she has brought it up pretty often over the 3 years we have been together.

Honestly, I have been excited to see what she would do with all the money she has saved. Today, she came over and told me she had something exciting to tell me. She had decided what to do with her “stupid money”. The grand plan she had come up with was a Disney trip. Which, initially, I was like “ok, whatever, her family lived near Disney World when she was growing up, I can understand her wanting to use some of the money for a few days there”.

But she wasn’t talking about just going to Disney World. Her grand plan for spending the money she’s been saving for almost 15 years, was to do all the Disneylands in the world. Tokyo, California, Paris, and apparently there’s one or two in China as well. She asked me what I thought, and I had to be honest, so the conversation went something like this:

“That sounds like a trip a 7 year old would plan, do you seriously want to waste your money on that?”

“What do you mean, it would be so fun!”

“For a 7 year old. You could spend part of your money on a trip to Disney World or whatever, but I would really rather be going somewhere that was for adults and actually had some kind of culture.”

“Well, we wouldn’t just be going to the parks, we would spend a few days in each of the cities too.”

I then had to tell her how that made no sense. Take Tokyo for example, she was planning on spending three days in the Disney park and four days in Tokyo proper. One of the greatest cities in the world, and she wanted to waste almost half her time in an overpriced theme park?

We argued back and forth for a while, and she ended up leaving. She called me a few hours ago to tell me that if I didn’t want to go, she was going to take her sister as a HS graduation present, but that I was being an AH about the trip she had planned for us. I feel like she may be the AH for trying to take back taking me on a trip, but I may be the AH for being honest and telling her I thought her idea was kind of ridiculous for an adult.