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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/puppycat8 on 2023-08-13 03:52:16.

Background: My parents don’t really have a problem with the LGBTQ community. Me, my mom, and my sister, are all bisexual. We have multiple gay members in our family, etc.

Now, to the story. I recently became the guardian to a 2yo boy and he is a little feminine. He prefers Minnie Mouse over Mickey Mouse, he likes to watch shows for girls, he heads straight to the girls’ section at the toy store, and more. He loves playing with ‘pretend’ cooking toys so I bought him a pretend kitchen with fake pots and pans and fake food. He loves Minnie Mouse so I got him a Minnie plush toy. I still dress him in “traditional” boys’ clothes and boys’ shoes which he doesn’t really mind.

Lately he likes to call himself “queen” and when my parents correct him and call him a king, he gets upset. I just shrug it off, because y’know, he’s two. I just let him call himself whatever he wants to be called that day. My parents get upset because he doesn’t go to the boy section in the toy store and refuse to buy him girl toys (pink stuff, castles, pretend toys) and I tell them I don’t see it as a big deal because he’s just a kid and if he does grow up to be queer, who cares? Half our family is gay. They say they don’t care if he’s gay in the future but they feel like I’m forcing him to be gay at a young age before he’s old enough to decide for himself. I don’t see myself as pushing anything on him, I’m just buying him what he asks for. But with my parents’ words, I’m starting to doubt myself. Is what I’m doing confusing him on purpose? AITA for “making my toddler gay?”

TLDR: my toddler is feminine and likes feminine things. i don’t actively correct him and tell him to like boy things. parents are mad.