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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/throwawayaccount_978 on 2023-08-13 14:49:11.

I (31) got married last month. Me and my husband chose to have a child free wedding, no kids under 13. The only exception to this was my SIL’s daughter who turned 13 a week after the wedding.

My half sister Emma (26) and me aren’t close and have a complicated family life (my dad cheated on my mom with her mom). But we have a good enough relationship and I invited her to the wedding. Emma has a 10 yo daughter.

She asked if she could bring her daughter, but I said sorry, no. She tried to use my SIL’s daughter as an example and insisted a lot, but I kept saying no. Eventually I thought she understood.

Emma came to the wedding by herself and during the reception, we had an open speeches part where people could come up and say a few words. At the end, Emma said she wanted to say something so we let her.

It started off normal (she congratulated us on our wedding and all that), but then made some really passive aggressive comments about her daughter not being invited, and that I’m apparently an ‘elitist’ for having this type of wedding and care more about looks.

We were shocked. My husband quickly went up to move everything along, but obviously everyone was listening.

I confronted her there but she was leaving and I didn’t want to make a scene, so I brushed it off in front of everyone else. Later me and Emma had a massive argument.

I called her an entitled bitch who thinks the world revolved around her and her kid, and she’s not special. She was pretty mad/upset and said she was ‘just telling the truth’ to everyone.

This made the rounds within friends and family and people are torn. I’ve got some people saying I’m wrong for lashing out at Emma and not inviting her daughter.

So, AITA?