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DO NOT COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS. I am NOT OOP. Original post by u/finishercar1 in r/AmIOverreacting
Posted with permission from OOP.
trigger warnings: racism, stalking, ableism
AIO? My friend WENT CRAZY when the guy she likes made a drawing of me. WARNING: unhinged rant + racism. (Context in post) - Jan 3rd 2025
So I’m 24f and she’s 24 as well. For some context she is white and I’m mixed Japanese/Brazilian. There’s this guy we both know through a mutual friend (we met him end of summer I think?).
She is at his place a lot and told us they’re dating but when he was asked he said she’s just a friend.
I’ll be honest, he’s a confident guy but when we first met he was always awkward when we interacted. I presumed he didn’t like me so I was surprised when he got me a bday gift last month.
After that we started hanging out more and actually became good friends. I like collecting rocks as a hobby (since childhood) and he is curious about it. A few times we would meet up and he even gave me rocks he thought I’d like. It was very thoughtful and sweet
My friend (F) started asking me about him and always made shady comments. For example she would imply that I’m not his type, that he’s not interested in me etc. They were very snarky remarks but very low key and subtle. One time he said that my eyes are stunning and she started laughing hysterically and called him a sleazy liar. At this point I was still under the illusion that she’s a friend so I thought she was just messing around and being funny.
A few days ago he surprised me with a drawing he made of me which was ofc very sweet! It looked great and was one of the nicest things I’ve ever received.
She started acting VERRRRY weird once she found out. Like she would give me weird looks and even mocked him. She talked shit about him behind his back and called him pathetic.
At one point we had this text exchange and she basically revealed her true self. I’m shocked but at the same time not shocked.
Am I overreacting with my responses? Don’t get me wrong, Ik she’s terrible but imo my replies were vicious and I know she’s probably still crying snot and tears as we speak 🤌🏽
Text transcription:
Ex-F: Hey sis 💕 I say this with good intentions cuz I don’t wanna see u get hurt but [guy friend] Isn’t into u like that. So it’s best u just forget about him and move on.
Like I really care about u
So I don’t wanna see u get into shit, like u deserve so much
OOP: loooool what the f
I’m not even into him what the fuck are you waffling on about 😭😭 I’m laughing
Ex-F: I can see ur trying to be close with him and it’s embarrassing cuz I feel bad for u ngl. Ur not his type and that’s okay girl.
OOP: LMFAOOOO who’s trying to get close? Are you drunk??
IS THIS ABUT THE DRAWING HE MADE OF ME LOOOOL
Ex-F: That drawing means nothing…he does things cuz he feels bad for u
U just don’t see it
OOP: We’re good friends and he’s obviously a sweet guy. What exactly did I do wrong tho? I’m tryna understand. Why are you so pressed?
Ex-F: Listen, u guys aren’t that close and he’s obviously not interested in u. U know how many times I’ve been to his place? We’ve been fucking since like October. Y’all never even hugged 💀💀💀 he’s awkward around u cuz he doesn’t find u attractive. Also no offence but he’s only into tall white girls…have u seen his exes? They’re literally 10/10 model types. So I’m more of his type. Not some ghetto Barbie hoodrat…men like him wanna take home a classy lady not some porn star 💀
OOP: LOOOL ghetto barbie hood rat sounds hot actually. And I’m confused because why are you calling me a porn star? Isn’t that a good thing LMAO
It’s funny how you showed your true, racist self just because you feel threatened
Ex-F: I’m not racist at all. I’m just telling you the truth and protecting your hard. Everything he does is calculated and he’s only use u because ur so easy
*heart
He feels bad for u cuz he probably thinks ur autistic lol
U collect rocks while I play with his balls who is winning? B
We are not the same
He’s basically sweet to u cuz do autistic things like that. It’s not genuine
OOP: Why would you make fun of someone for having a hobby Imfao?? What are your hobbies? What do you do when you’re not sleeping with him to get commitment?
You’ve been flinging your weary pussy @him since October in hopes of getting scraps of commitment
{I’m tired, boss meme}
^ your vagina
And then you have the audacity to be mad at me for something I didn’t even do WTF. And I don’t even like him like that as I said. Why are you bringing this petty shit to me and not him? You’re sick
Ex-F: We had sex over 40+ times
He actually likes me but I can’t say the same for u tbh. What have u guys done together? lol nothing. And the fact he made that ugly drawing means nothing. Like I said he feels bad for U cuz ur giving autism. 🤷♀️
Every time he texts u there’s a high chance he’s balls deep in me. Mind ur business bitch
OOP: WHAT
You’re actually not normal GET HELP I BEG YOU
Ex-F: He wants white babies…not some jap latina mutts
OOP: lol
Remember the other day when you were crying about having lines on your forehead? You have them because you’re racist white trash so your evil spirit shines through lol It’s time for a new round of Botox Band fillers sis your age is starting to show at the ripe age of…24!!! 🥱 LMAO get fucked you racist psycho
Oh wait you already have been by HIM AND ITS STILL NOT ENOUGH FOR A RELATIONSHIP?! OH MY!!
⚰️
🌹
Ex-F: Wow
I can’t believe u actually said that
This friendship is dead
Ur a cruel and sick and demented bitch
Never text or talk to me again
U were given up for adoption cuz ur bio parents could see u would grow up to be a evil home wrecking slut whore
Back the fuck off my man and mind ur ghetto business
Smelly ugly whore
OOP: Go to sleep you illiterate Nazi
update in comments - Jan 4th 2025 (one day later)
She didn’t show him the texts but told him we had a fight. She told him SOOO many lies about me chat. She told him I have STIs (I don’t), that I had two abortions in the past (??? I’ve never had an abortion in my life??) and that my vagina smells bad. (My 🐈⬛ smells heavenly thanks). She says she knows it smells bad because we fell asleep on the same bed once and she claims she couldn’t sleep the whole night due to the smell. lol.
Oh and she claims I have a baby daddy who is in jail for murder LMAO.
He reached out to me to ask wtf is going on and I showed him the texts. Btw she claimed that she was very nice/considerate and that I had a total meltdown. She said that she was mostly joking anyway and that I overreacted. She completely manipulated the situation to make herself look like a saint.
She also cried a lot and told everyone in the group chat that I broke her heart and made her cry. SHE POSTED A CRYING SELFIE. So ofc everyone’s initial reaction was wtf, what did you do to her?
When I showed him the texts he called me and asked me if I’m okay and apologised. I had to go bc I was heading off for some training and he said he wanted to talk about it when we have time.
If you want lessons in tarnishing someone’s image y’all should take inspiration from her. I’ve never had someone go to such great lengths to make me look so bad 😩
Some more context in another comment - Jan 4th 2025 (posted just after previous update)
STORY TIME
She and I went to a themed party some months ago. This is before he entered the picture btw.
I was Chel (El Dorado) and she was Natalie Portman’s …
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Man… Between 8h of work and household chores/hobbies, I don’t even find time most weeks to continue our group’s nearly finished d&d campaign. How the fuck are people in situations where they have the time to have these interactions?
This just sounds damn tiring, I’d be done with the entire friend+painter guy combo after the first two texts.
Boredom and need for attention is one hell of a drug.
Some more context in another comment - Jan 4th 2025 (posted just after previous update)
STORY TIME
She and I went to a themed party some months ago. This is before he entered the picture btw.
I was Chel (El Dorado) and she was Natalie Portman’s character from Black Swan.
Throughout the whole night she kept joking that my costume was so slutty and “doing too much”. You know when someone is being passive aggressive but trying to laugh it off ☠️ she was basically doing that. Once again if you know her personality I didn’t think she genuinely meant it though but looking back she was clearly pressed.
And I think it’s funny how a costume is considered classy or slutty based on a woman’s body type. If she wore the same exact outfit she’d consider it classy and elegant. God forbid a woman has t&a. suddenly everything is bad and slutty.
Anyway we had a fight later that night because she wanted to go home with a guy but she wasn’t comfortable doing that unless I went out with his friend. She was guilt tripping me and accusing me of slut shaming. I ditched her @ the party because she kept coercing me into going on some weird 4some double date that I didn’t sign up for.
She got so pissed I ditched her (simply because I wasn’t comfortable) and we had a fight that night. But eventually we made up and I actually got over the whole situation.
She spun the entire story to tell our mutual guy friend that I ditched her @ a party and that I have a history of being a terrible friend.
GUYS SHE LIED ABOUT THE 40 - Jan 4th 2025 (later in the day after previous updates)
I was going to comment this on my post but it got locked. I spoke to my guy friend and he said that they definitely didn’t hook up as many as 40 times. He says he stopped sleeping with her because she got baby crazy and kept joking about baby trapping him. And he told me that she freaked out over an incident that happened between them which happened the same week as the drawing so she was already on edge. He absolutely refuses to tell me what went down so idk. Oh and he asked me if I’m turned off by guys who sleep with lots of girls and I honestly had to tell him yes. He spent 20 min explaining that he’s a reformed man hoe and looking to settle down. I told him that he shouldn’t care what I think and to live life how he likes.
I asked him if he has a crush on me and he said yes was it obvious? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Update: my racist ex-friend apologised to me and suggested we should do a 3some to make peace - Jan 7th 2025 (3 days after previous update)
I honestly don’t know how I ever befriended this girl. She also knocked on my door in the middle of the night to say sorry wtf. I’m scared of what this crazy bitch might do help 😭
Crazy ex-friend is starting to show stalker tendencies. Is there anything I can do or do I just have to “wait it out”? - Jan 10th 2025 (3 days after previous update)
I’ve already posted about this situation on the AIO subreddit where I received plenty of support. However since then her behaviour took a weird turn but I feel like legally my hands are tied. I’m hesitant to give away my location atm but I guess I’d just like general advice since I’ve never dealt with something like this before.
So far she’s:
shown up uninvited to my place and an event I attended constantly reaching out to me through a new number after I block her. So far she texted and called me from 3 different numbers. she’s contacted a family member of mine, inquiring about my whereabouts and claiming that she’s concerned for my mental health and safety But the worst thing she did so far was book the same flight as my solo trip at the end of this month. In a nutshell, I planned a solo trip and I had told her about it before we fell out. Quite recently she sent me a picture of her flight details and she booked the exact same trip/flight. I think this is unhinged behaviour and demonstrates what I’m dealing with rn.
My unhinged ex-friend booked the same flight as me to “join” me on my solo trip - Jan 13th 2025 (3 days after previous update, 10 days after first post)
I already posted about this girl a few times. It all started when she got upset that a guy (her FWB) showed interest in me. She sent me a bunch of racist, hurtful texts making fun of me and my hobbies and everything. We fell out of course but then a few days later she drunkenly tried to climb into my place through the window to apologise. I booked her an Uber (from her phone) that night and the next day she turned up at an event I went to. She’s literally following my every move and when I went to the local authorities they basically said they can’t do much rn.
I’m going on a solo trip soon and she seriously fucking booked the same flight and dates as me. She even booked a hotel that’s close to mine. (She knew about this trip before we fell out which is how she knows all the details).
So basically I’m gonna have this deranged lunatic following me across the globe for god knows what reason.
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Text transcription:
Ex-F: Pls don’t take this the wrong way bestie
I told u already that I’m sorry for everything that went down. I was very emotional during that time and it was wrong of me to spread negative energy and vibes like that. I’m so sorry that ur feelings were hurt and I said things u should never say to a friend. I’m sorry for calling u a ghetto porn star Barbie and autistic. I think going to [censored] together can be the start of our healing journey together… I really want to make this work. I couldn’t get the seat next to u but I’m behind u at least. It’s gonna be soooo much fun if u just relax and focus on the positives
That’s one of the things that are wrong about u. U always focus on the negatives. This could be a fresh start to out friendship. I’m not willing to throw away 3 years of knowing u…
Please bestie u know u mean so much to me…it’s gonna be so fun
Just don’t fuck nobody without telling me bestie
Girl code
I booked a hotel close to yours 💕 love u sis
This was going to be a surprise but I wanted to let u know so that we can hang out day 1 like I don’t wanna waste anytime…this is gonna be the best healing journey ever… love u sm sis
Relevant comments:
OOP, in response to how she knew what to book:
Because I decided to book them before Xmas and I said that she can join me if she’d like (we were still friends at the time). As friends do I excitedly texted her my flight details and hotel and she was considering booking it as well but later said she had to help a friend move that week.
I would’ve never thought she would do this though? Because who does this….? And what’s her plan exactly when she gets there
More comments:
OOP:
Guys I think she might’ve seen this post bc suddenly she texted me that she was joking and if I seriously thought she would go that far
KhadraThunderborn:
What the actual fuck. She is unhinged to the next level. What are you planning to do?
OOP:
Still going but I may or may not have changed some details
Reminder - I am not the original poster. DO NOT COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS.
This kind of reminds me of murder on the Nile. So let’s hope op stays away from boats.
