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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/[deleted] on 2023-08-22 11:09:16.

So I moved to a different country and got my dream apartment. It’s a three-bedroom apartment opposite a park, and there’s a farmer’s market that’s just five minutes walk away. I converted the smallest bedroom into an office and kept the second bedroom as a bedroom. I thought that if my parents decided to come here for a visit, they wouldn’t have to stay in a hotel.

I wouldn’t be here without my parent’s help. They financed my move and I’m paying them back by sending money home every month.

I did a complete makeover of the apartment when my housemate left. That housemate is a high school friend I allowed to live with me. She moved here for work and I offered my apartment to share rent. However, she was a slob, sometimes “forgot” to pay her rent, and would get angry if I didn’t clean her dishes or leave her my leftovers. We got along fine initially, but eventually, living with her became hell. I barely managed to kick her out.

When I finished re-decorating my apartment, I sent photos back home, telling my parents I was happy to be living in my apartment without a slob of a housemate.

Last week, my mom called to say that her friend’s daughter will also move here in a few months for work. They’re looking for an apartment, but the daughter seems picky. My mom asked me if it was okay if the daughter could live in my apartment instead. I told her no, as I didn’t want another slob of a housemate. She promised that her friend would be paying rent on time. Still, I said no. Then she tried to make me feel guilty by telling me that she already promised her friend my apartment. Later, I learned the name of my mom’s friend. That friend has a daughter and a son. That daughter bullied me when we were kids. When we were back home as adults, she was cold to me and would always make me feel that she was inferior and better than me. I gave my mom a big no.

Then she started her tirade about me being ungrateful and pointed out that since it’s her money that I used to find the apartment, it’s technically her paying the rent, and she is allowing the friend’s daughter to live here. She said it with a tone that said I don’t have the right to argue with her.

I live in an exclusive building where the doorman won’t allow anyone to enter unless the tenant or unit owner gives permission. My mom already gave my address to her friend so they can fix the daughter’s paperwork for the move. She also showed the pictures I sent her, that the daughter loved my bedroom, and asked if we could switch. The nerve!

I said if they continued their plans, I would tell the reception desk I didn’t know her, and that would be a legit reason for the building security to escort her out of the property.

She called me ungrateful again and hung up the phone. I’m contemplating moving and won’t give my new address to them, but I don’t want to leave this apartment because it’s a good location.

So, am I the asshole?