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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Big_Caramel_9330 on 2023-08-22 16:25:30.

My holidays were approved by my manager one month ago. Yesterday, my colleague John which I am very friend with, also wanted to take a trip to an exotic country to see his friend the same days as my holidays.

I told him that I am very sorry but I have things planned and I cannot move my holidays. However I will not leave the country, I will just spend some time with my boyfriend.

Afterwards, my manager tells me that he would really like to approve John’s holidays but I need to be available in case of urgency even though there is a very small risk that an urgency rises. And that he don’t want that the superiors are mad at him for not having a backup plan in case of urgency.

I told him that I cannot accept that, I would be busy enjoying my holidays. I don’t even know if my manager has the right to ask me that.

Well, now I have the impression that my colleague is mad at me for ruining his chance of exotic holidays as it seems a one in a lifetime trip. But I believe that my manager is responsible for this, if he wants to accept the holidays of my colleague he can sacrifice his own holidays and be available instead.

AITA for running my colleague’s chance to go on a trip ?