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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/MaterialAny9232 on 2023-08-22 16:39:55.

My fiancé (32M) and I (30F) are getting married in a few months we have been dating for 2 years. When we first starting dating his sister(25F) and I got along great, but when I asked her to be a bridesmaid she turned me down, I assume because she would not be the center of attention. Everything spiraled from there and now we are pretty much NC with her. She is a brat truth be told and created a ton of unnecessary drama. Some highlights were showing up with no gift to our engagement party and not saying a word to us, she ran into my brother in public and was extremally rude to him, her and her boyfriend denied this happened and called my brother a liar. Now she is no longer invited to the wedding.

This summer we made an effort to see other members of his family so we have been spending our weekends meeting up for dinner with different members of his family. Naturally the issues with his sister come up. I chose not to hold back and told them exactly what she did. I thought they should know how toxic she is and decide for themselves if they want her in their lives.

Yesterday I saw on Instagram one of my fiancé’s cousins posted a bunch of pictures from a girls wine day. All his females aunts and cousins were there and of course his sister was there. I was so hurt that they wouldn’t even invite me. It felt like the pictures were posted specifically to make me feel bad and show that they took her side. I am supposed to be marrying into this family in a few months and they completely left me out.

I reached out to one of his aunts I thought I was close to and asked if my fiancé’s sister planned this, She said no it was another aunt. When I asked why I wasn’t invited she said it was because of the drama between me and fiancé’s sister, they didn’t want the day to be uncomfortable so chose to keep it to just family which hurt to hear that they don’t consider me family. I asked her if they meant they all took her side, she claimed no one was taking sides and if I chose to take it that way it was up to me. I ended the phone call very upset.

My bridal shower is in a few weeks and I don’t want any of them there its for friends and family and obviously they don’t consider me family so they don’t need to be there. I want no drama at my shower and only people who are happy for me and love me there. I am debating if I want them at the wedding but I will deal with that later. I have a mass email written up ready to send disinviting them from my shower, my fiancé is fine with it he can’t stand his sister and is angry with his family. My MOH is trying to talk me out of sending it saying it will ruin my relationship with his family and my wedding and upset my MIL, but I think its already ruined.