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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/LucyIsUnbreakable on 2023-08-22 21:13:32.

My wife has a habit of plopping her butt down without ever taking a look at where she’s sitting.

I’ve asked her repeatedly to look before she sits because some of the things she’s sat in include puke, an ant pile, a puddle of water that accumulated on the surface of the floor, a spider (while hiking… it was mushed onto her butt when she got up), etc…

I’ve mostly learned to mitigate any direct effect this has on me by ensuring breakable things are not anywhere that people could potentially sit. I use to have a habit of setting all kinds of things on the couch next to me for immediate use. I now put it all in a different place. I did this because she would constantly come up without looking while I’m playing a game, watching a show, or something and just sit down and suddenly the TV is turned off, or the volume is messed up, or in the previous worst case she broke one of the joysticks on my PS5 controller by sitting on it while I had the controller sitting next to me so I could watch a cutscene in a game.

Lately she’s been borrowing my macbook a lot and I always put it back in my office when I’m not using it so that it can charge. It’s a $3000 macbook from 2022 (one of the m1 models). She left it on the couch and went back, accidentally sitting on it, and cracking the screen. I was extremely furious as not only is there a financial burden here but now I’m out a computer and I really needed that for some classes I’m taking. When this happened I said, “For fuck sake. Why can’t you EVER fucking look where you sit? EVER? Was sitting in vomit not enough motivation? An ant hill? A spider?” to which she got very defensive. I continued by saying that her lack of attention just cost us hundreds of dollars and put me in a bad place for my school program.

She called me a jerk for talking down to her because I have asked her many to look where she sits and I’ve snapped before because she sat without looking and caused some issue (for instance, she sat on an ottoman once without looking and spilled a bunch of food over that I had sitting there next to me). This time really pushed me over the edge.

AITA?