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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Extra-Pineapple-8212 on 2023-08-22 22:34:40.

AITA: My GF (F30) and I (M32) have been dating for a year and want to move in together. However, she disagrees on contributing financially since it’s contributing to my mortgage.For context:

• I understand the internet is highly divided on this topic.
• My mortgage is roughly $3000, I asked if she’d be okay paying $600 (which is half of her $1200 rent budget)
• She has no problem paying utilities, etc., which would be about $125/month
• This is for a major USA east coast city where a 1BR can start at $2700/month, a studio for $1800/month
• There is a significant difference between our salaries which I am aware of.
• MAJOR EDIT: She is not currently on a lease. She rents directly from an owner who agreed to a month-to-month at the owner’s discretion.

While I understand that she doesn’t want to give money towards paying a mortgage she is not on, that is the situation of every renter. I want to support my partner but feel expecting to not contribute to the financial stress of living together is completely unrealistic/juvenile.TL;DR - my partner doesn’t want to contribute to paying any part of my mortgage, I feel uneasy about that.