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The original was posted on /r/bestofredditorupdates by /u/swtogirl on 2025-02-21 01:58:38+00:00.
I am not the Original Poster. OOP is u/wooolllyyy He originally posted on r/TIFU and their own profile
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Original BORU posted by me January 9, 2023
New Update will be marked with:
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Mood Spoiler: Starts out pretty bleak, ends on a positive note
TIFU by getting fired because i cried. Aug 20, 2021
Ok so this happened about two hours ago. First of all, a little backstory:
I’m a 25 years old male who lives in Iran which is a very shitty country to live or to be born in. Everything here sucks and is incredibly hard, including finding a job. I have been unemployed since Covid hit my country and just recently i managed to finally find a job. Covid is still raging here, since they won’t vaccinate us, so most times we work from home.
I was dating this girl for about 9 months, which i know isn’t a long time but since I’m leaving the country in a few months forever, i really invested myself into this relationship cause we planned to leave together and everything was going so smoothly. My anxiety was practically gone and i was really happy after a really long life of being depressed.
Yesterday, out of nowhere she breaks up with me and tells me that she isn’t feeling the relationship anymore and that I’m a really good guy and she doesn’t want to hurt my feelings in the long run. Which destroys me but i understand. I tell her to give us a another chance and she says no, it’s better this way. She’s a very honest person so i believe her and leave. I accept the outcome even tho i immediately start crying.
Anyway, today im still pretty bummed out but i gotta go to the office for a couple of hours and my boss is there to help me which is a big relief since i really didn’t feel like working. I take a smoke break and get reminded of some memories and i start crying a little bit. I go back upstairs and my boss immediately finds out that I’ve been crying and insists on me telling him what happened, which i do.
He looks me dead in the eyes and says “Wow, you were crying over that? Such a weak person, i don’t think you are a good fit for the compony if that’s the stuff you are worried about. I think you should leave” at this point i start laughing, cause this is clearly a joke right? right? Wrong. He looked at me like im insane and asked me to leave immediately. So i pack up my stuff and do as im told.
Yesterday i had a girlfriend whom i loved and a job and a good future ahead of me. Now im just a guy who has to leave his country and everyone he loves because he was born in one of the worst places possible and he’s doing it completely alone and broken. Honestly maybe boys should not cry.
TL;DR: My girlfriend broke up with me. I opened up to my boss and he thought i was weak so he fired me.
EDIT: Wow, you guys made my day a million times better!!! I’d give you all hugs and golds if internationally usable credit cards where a thing here and i could buy Reddit coins. But since that’s not possible, I’ll send all my love.
EDIT2: Holyshit, This blew up!!! You guys are amazing!!! Thanks for all the awards and kind words. I have learned so much by just reading your replies and i have definitely gained a new perspective on my life. I will cherish your words forever. Also I’m sorry if i can’t reply to all your kind comments. I will try my best to reply to as many as i can. Also also, for people who ask, I’m moving to Germany on a school scholarship and will definitely update you all beautiful people. Much love to all of you.
deleted user:
Not a fuckup…it provided you with a direction your life should not be going (with that girl nor that company of employment). This is a great step in the right direction…a direction that may seem invisible right now, but you will get there just by following through with your plan. This “fuckup” as you called it, is actually cleaning things up for you so you can leave Iran without anything tying you down or holding you back.
Unfiltered_America:
A few months ago I had an employee hit a really rough patch with his lady. He called me up in the middle of the night asking if I could pick him up because he had to leave his house. This guy is tough, spent time in prison, tattoos from head to toe, left his past behind and has become an honest person bettering himself every day… when I picked him up, I took him over to the bar I run, sat him down with a big glass of water and he cried. He cried hard, loud, painful, sobbing, snot bubbles out the nose cry. I sat and listened, refilled his water and listened more. His mom had died the month before from covid and it was taking its toll on his relationship since his whole extended family all shared the same roof. I never thought less of this man, not even once because he showed that side of him to me. I made sure he got back home ok once he cried it out and calmed down and the next day he worked, he came in to my office and gave me a hug and said, “Bro, I’ve never had a boss like you man. You have no idea what that meant to me, I had noone else to call, thank you man. Bro, I love you for what you did.”
Tldr: I had bosses like yours, the taught me to be a better person.
Good luck on your journey.
TIFU by getting fired because i cried Update Dec 9, 2022
I was contemplating not making this update because it’s not the type of “it all worked out at the end update” but since I promised one, here you go.
Ok, when I created the original post, it was me shouting in the dark, and I didn’t expect it to blow up, but it did, and you guys helped me through a lot of my anxiety. A couple of people even stayed in touch, and I gave them updates here and there. I wish I could have told you things worked out and I’m happy in Germany starting a new life, but that didn’t happen. I will break this up into a timeline so it’s easy to follow.
Sep 2021: I found a job a month after I posted the original thread in a company based in the U.S. it was a remote job, and the CEO was Iranian. We were not documented, which is fine because most of the time, Iranian CEOs hire people outside of the U.S. to pay them way less. This happens a lot. The pay was about 160$ a month, and we had no benefits, but whatever, I was trying to save money to get out as soon as possible.
March 2022: I started applying for schools in Germany and was confident I would get in because a couple of years ago, my brother went through the same process and got in easily. I applied to 9 universities. A few rejected me because of my GPA, which is fair, and a few others accepted my application. Now at this time, my undergraduate degree isn’t ready because, in Iran, it takes a ridiculous amount of time and effort for you to get your degree.
May 2022: A small protest happens outside of my school in support of a girl who was sexually assaulted, but since the asshole who did that to her had a powerful dad, the girl got arrested and he didn’t face any consequences. Also since no news outlet covered it, we all gathered to support her. Long story short, I was arrested and expelled, which resulted in me not getting my diploma. Naturally, in a couple of months, the two schools that accepted my provisional application without my degree wanted my degree, and I couldn’t provide it, so understandably, they had to move forward with other applicants.
I also left my job because I realized we were being overworked for little to no money. Whenever we ask for a raise, they always find a way not to do it, and honestly, the CEO has promised every employee that he’d help them move to the U.S at some point, which is obviously a lie, and they just want us to work for them as much as we can until they can afford actual on-site employees.
Sep 2022: Protests break out, and I leave Iran for a neighboring country because it will not be safe for me since I’m fairly active on social media about the whole situation and a few thousand people follow me. Three days after I left, they showed up at my house back in Iran and demanded to arrest me, but luckily I wasn’t there. If I go back to Iran, I won’t make it past airport security.
For the past two months, I have been trying to find a job, but I haven’t been successful. I have a half-decent resume, but I keep getting rejected because of the country I’m in right now. I’m exhausted and out of options. I’m burning through my savings, and in a few weeks, I’m either going to have to be homeless or go back to Iran to get arrested. I’m in a really dark place and have little to no hope for what’s to come. I miss my friends and my family. I just wanted a normal life. I know I’m being pathetic, and I didn’t want to post this. I wanted to have something good happen so I could update you guys with happy news, but everything keeps getting worse. This will proba…
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For the past two months, I have been trying to find a job, but I haven’t been successful. I have a half-decent resume, but I keep getting rejected because of the country I’m in right now. I’m exhausted and out of options. I’m burning through my savings, and in a few weeks, I’m either going to have to be homeless or go back to Iran to get arrested. I’m in a really dark place and have little to no hope for what’s to come. I miss my friends and my family. I just wanted a normal life. I know I’m being pathetic, and I didn’t want to post this. I wanted to have something good happen so I could update you guys with happy news, but everything keeps getting worse. This will probably be my last post on this matter and on Reddit. Sorry if I let you guys down.
TL;DR: Got fired from university because of protests, didn’t get my undergraduate degree, and couldn’t move to Germany. Went to a neighboring country were i’m in the verge of becoming homeless or going back to Iran, where I’ll 100% be arrested.
deleted user:
Go to an embassy and seek asylum somewhere. Whatever you do don’t go back to Iran.
OOP:
I don’t think I can do that since there are no records of me being arrested or even the arrest warrant. They do that so you specifically can’t request asylum. A good lawyer can probably get the records, but I can’t afford that.
NEW UPDATE–
TIFU by getting fired because i cried (Final Update) January 20, 2025
Original Post: Aug 20, 2021
First Update: Jan 9, 2023
(First update reposted by u/swtogirl on r/BestofRedditorUpdates because the original was removed.)
First of all, I’m writing this here because I can’t, for the life of me, figure out how to post on any of the previous subreddits without it getting removed. I don’t think this will reach far, but to those who were interested, here we go:
OK, so basically, three years ago, I posted the original post on r/tifu. A tiny TLDR for those who have no clue what I’m talking about. I’m from Iran, and two years ago, when life was really getting me down, I cried in front of my boss, and he fired me. Then, people encouraged me to leave Iran and pursue happiness somewhere else. In the following months, protests broke out, and because I was heavily involved in the protests, I got fired from the university, and the move to Germany was off. I had to move to a neighboring country with nothing in my pockets. I became homeless and lost everything. I was on the verge of ending everything when I made a small update, and initially, it went unnoticed, but somebody reposted it on here, drawing attention to it. Since my original post was removed, it still is up here.
Now, let’s get back to what has happened since then. A couple of very kind Redditors reached out and helped me through those tough times, for which I will be immensely thankful forever. If it weren’t for them, I’d either be dead or not where I am today. A couple of months after my post, I found someone who provided me with shelter and food in exchange for work on his farm. I also started tutoring his daughter, for which he paid me, and I saved up bit by bit. In the meantime, I managed to obtain my university transcripts from Iran, had them translated, and applied to two universities in Germany. I had little to no hope considering where life had put me. I missed home, I missed family, but bit by bit, things were looking up. I got accepted into one of those universities, obtained my visa after two months, and now I’m in Germany. I DID IT!!! Finally!!!
Now I had a small problem of having to block 12000€ in a bank account to show them I can financially support myself. Obviously, I could not have, and I had a very tiny portion of that money. I did everything to get that money, so I borrowed it from whoever I could. It felt terrible to do so, but I just had to get to somewhere safe. Also, the way that system works guaranteed that I could not have been able to pay it back soon, so it was a nightmare. But I got it done anyway. And now I’m in Germany. I do have a pretty dainty debt problem, but I am here nonetheless. In fact, I have been here for a year and studying and finding a place and friends and everything. Since I didn’t speak a word of German and lived in a very small town, I only recently was able to find a job, and the debt problem still remains, but it’s been great otherwise. I have more freedom and security than I have ever had. I even found someone, and we are really happy together.
I have to mention though that 2 years ago, I was deeply involved in the protests in Iran, mainly on social media. For my safety, I couldn’t disclose my whereabouts, but now I can and I want to. I was in Turkey, and life was tough. However, some people in this country are just incredible. They took me in and helped me a lot, and at times, it even felt like home. So, to the people of Turkey, thank you for that. I had to hide from the VAJA (IR Ministry of Intelligence) because they wouldn’t leave me be, and you really helped me with that.
For my next chapter, not that anybody cares, I have decided to change everything and start from the ground up. I’m going to pursue politics and make real change happen because I don’t want anyone to go through what I have. I know it’s near impossible to achieve, but that doesn’t mean I won’t try. I really want to help my people, and that’s going to be my life’s purpose now.
Being in debt is a little scary. I hope I can manage to get out of it. But hey, I survived far worse things, so fingers crossed, I hope I can manage. I want to thank the incredible people who helped me during this time, and I want to thank the person who reposted my post on r/BestofRedditorUpdates. You are an absolute legend.
TL;DR: After being fired from my job and university, living in exile away from my beloved country, I’ve moved to Germany to pursue my passion and help my people in the long run. I’ve kept going, and I have no intention of stopping now.
Relevant Comments:
swtogirl:
I’m so glad to hear things are looking up for you, and you’re safe in Germany! I hope you continue to do well and make a positive impact on those around you! 💖
OOP:
Thank you! You really really helped by reposting it. Otherwise things would have ended long ago. Very grateful 🙏🏻
swtogirl:
I had a time in my life a little like that. Nothing was as extreme as what you went through, but I thought about ending it after a dark time in my life. Someone noticed and offered their friendship, and that saved me. Because of that, I try to find others who are in need and help however I can. It’s part of the reason I chose to be a teacher.
I know you’ll do great things in the future, big and small.
Reminder: I am not OOP. Do NOT comment on Original Posts. No Brigading! See rule 7.
Dude is living hard mode. God bless
