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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/FaithlessnessWild215 on 2023-08-23 14:09:17.

I was told to come here. My son was married to Emma. They got married and had a kid, apparently he had doubts about if he was the father and got a dna test. He was not but has been in the kids life for 4 years and his name is on the birth certificate so he is legally responsible and he still loves the kid.

Now my issue is that before they divorced I was never allowed near the grandkid. I ask to babysit but they both cited that my home was unsafe and they do not trust me with a baby, even if I raised four kids. They wouldn’t even bring the kid to family events like Christmas. They did this with all of his siblings. I know I am more country then them but it hurt a lot. My other kids relationship with him is strained because they believe he is looking down on them after he got a city job.

Now after the divorce he has the kid almost 50 percent of the time and he keeps asking me to babysit. I told him straight up that I will not babysit the kid since she not my grandkid and you made it clear I wasn’t good enough to babysit when you thought she was your kid. Huge argument and he thinks I am awful. I just think he wants someone to parent due to not being able to rely on his ex wife anymore.