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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/throwaway286437 on 2023-08-23 10:08:43.

I (25M) and my girlfriend Allie (21F) have been together for a little over a year. I love her to death but she has these little habits that drive me insane. We just moved in together at the start of Aug

First off, she doesn’t really like to cook. I love to cook so I do it more often than she does. Because of this I decided the dishes are her job, it’s only fair that if I cook dinner for both of us a few times a week, I don’t do any dishes. Plus I work

We both work 12 hour shifts, mine are night shifts and hers are both. She’s been off a few weeks because she got a concussion. So while I work my 3 shifts a week, she stays home. We had a fight the other day because I found out she made food for herself while I was working, and didn’t tell me there was leftovers so I didn’t know I could eat it when I got home the next morning. She also ate a chicken burger two days in a row while I was gone, I said it was excessive and that she shouldn’t eat the same thing that often. She claims it was because she can’t be up for long with her concussion, and they’re easy

She snacks on random things. She won’t just eat crackers, she’ll eat cereal out of the box. She bought a box of fruit loops a week ago, today I saw her eating them dry and most of the bag was already gone. I took them out of her hands and put it away. She was mad but I told her cereal is expensive and she shouldn’t just eat it like that. She does the same thing when she buys frozen fruit, I took that away from her too a couple times because she’d eat it multiple days in a row

I work 3 nights in a row a week, then I have 4 days off. I keep my schedule the rest of the week, because it’s easier. I sleep around 7am most days and wake at 5pm. When I get up, I ask Allie to help me unpack my boxes and she never wants to. She claims it’s because she’s been up all day but I think she doesn’t want to unpack my stuff. Since her heads been improving she’s been unpacking more of her boxes, but it’s a waste of time. She takes out books when my kitchen stuff is boxed. We don’t need books out, and she puts her stuff places without checking if I’m okay with it. Yesterday she said she was going to go to the store, I told her to stay home because we needed to unpack my stuff. We started unpacking a box but she got a headache and stopped

I haven’t been able to get most of my stuff unpacked since we moved in, because she’s been concussed the whole time and can’t help me. I’ve been waiting for her but she’s upset with me that I haven’t unpacked anything myself, because apparently that’s what I “should have been doing.”

She got mad at me and said I’m controlling since we moved in. I said she’s overreacting; I’m just trying to make sure she eats right and we each do half. She also got mad at me for my sleep schedule, because it’s “hard” being the one watching our 2 dogs all day. I feel like she’s overreacting.

AITA?