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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/FoMcCloud on 2023-08-23 20:50:49.

I (36) have an elder sister “Fanny” (31) that got married two days ago, that wedding was a bit rushed because she has some traveling plans with her husband that required many legal arrangements. My wife (33) and I were planning to go to the ceremony, as well as my parents, my brother and other sister, but one day before, we got a notification from Fanny that after the wedding we’re invited to a reception in a restaurant at night, I asked Fanny if the invitation included my wife (we have a 2 years old child, but we’re making arrangements to leave with my wife’s mother for a hour or two) and she said that the reception was ONLY for her brothers and parents due the rushed event. Now I respect her decision, but I think that my wife and my brother’s are also immediate family and must be included in that kind of family events, so the next day I went alone to the ceremony and refused to the reception for empathy with my wife. My mother called me that night and try to convence me to go, but I refused again and that’s was all.

I haven’t a word of this matter again with my parents nor Fanny, but I’m doubtful about my actions. Am I the asshole? I believe that allowing one person or two doesn’t a big trouble If they are your brother’s wives.