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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/KeyContribution5812 on 2023-08-23 21:30:13.

We’re both women so no sexist comments.

We currently live separately and are talking about moving in together except we’ve hit a snag. She rents and pays roughly $3000 in rent, utilities, and insurance. I outright own a house that my brothers gave to me as a graduation gift. My utilities, insurance, and property tax is roughly $2500 a month. She makes about $50,000 a year while I make about $300,000. All of this cumulated into the argument we’re currently in.

I asked her to pay $1250 a month when she moves in to cover the cost of living here. I thought that was a reasonable request since there will be 2 people living here and that’s half of my cost. She disagrees and thinks it’s unreasonable since I’ll incur those cost whether or not she lives with me. I asked her what she thought was fair and her first answer was that she shouldn’t have to contribute anything since the house was in my name and she doesn’t have ownership. That led to an argument until she relented and offered to pay based on our income. Since I make 6 times her salary, she said the only fair thing is for her to pay 1/6 the cost, so roughly $400 a month. I thought this was unrealistic but she argued that it’s fair since I don’t even need her money because I don’t have a mortgage and make so much more.

I love her and never thought money would be an issue but here we are. What do you all think?