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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Advanced_River_1891 on 2023-08-24 17:20:06.

Hello everyone. I (34M) and my wife(41F) have been married for 1.5 years. Recently we moved to another state because of my job. My wife is a school teacher and aa you may all know, she doesn’t make much. I make 3 times as much as her. We live in a HCOL city right now.

We have a joint checking account where she deposits her paycheck and then transfer it to her savings account which I don’t have access to yet. I have another account for myself where I get direct deposits from my job. Recently, my wife asked me to transfer whatever I have from my account to her savings. The issue is since I don’t have access to her savings account yet(my credit score took a hit during the pandemic and I wasn’t approved). I told her that I will add her into my bank account and she can use that.

I pay 90% of the household bills so I always want to keep some money in my account in cases of emergencies. However, my wife is kind of upset because I refused to transfer everything from my account every month after paying the bills. It’s not like I don’t trust her but since I don’t have access to her savings yet, I am a bit uncomfortable doing so.

AITA here?