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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Ok-Book-340 on 2023-08-24 17:48:48.

My husband and I have 2 daughters (14) Jenny and (16) Emily. Their birthday’s are 2 weeks apart. Jenny is extremely jealous of Emily. She will do anything to make sure Emily doesn’t get any attention.

This year she decided that she wants to celebrate her birthday on the day of Emily’s birthday. We tried explaining to her that it’s wrong and asked her to choose another date but she didn’t listen. We finally told her that either she chooses another date or there will be no birthday party for her.

Last weekend was Emily’s birthday and we threw a party for her. Everyone were enjoying themselves except for Jenny who was sulking in her room.

My BIL went to talk to Jenny and came back downstairs with Jenny following him. He angrily told us that he is taking Jenny out to celebrate her birthday and we can’t stop him.

My husband and I were very angry but we didn’t want to make a scene and ruin the party so we let them go. Later when they came back we confronted him and told him that he had no right to do this. He got mad and started yelling at us asking us if it would kill us to prioritize Jenny once. Apparently “we are always so busy with Emily” . The thing is, Emily was battling cancer for a very long time (she is ok now) and she needed most of our attention and while I understand that Jenny felt like she wasn’t a priority, I think she was being very selfish.