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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/LostnConfused1010 on 2023-08-24 23:14:17.

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It’s been pointed out my title wording makes the post seem worse than it is, I apologize for that, it wasn’t my intention.

So, I’ve always known my son had an interest in men. He was slow on the pick up of incognito mode, and from the searches he made, I figured he was at least “Bi-curious” (if that’s the proper term for it) since he hit puberty. Well, last year, he started bringing a boy around, and it was obvious they were dating, to the point I figured that he knew I knew, and it wanst a big deal to anyone.

Well, apparently, I was wrong.

After school yesterday he and his boyfriend came up to me and said there was something really important they needed to tell me. My son said that they were dating and had been for a year. Well… I was surprised that he wasn’t aware I knew and was a bit thrown off. My mouth moved faster than my brain and I said “Well, thats pretty fucking gay.”

Now, I thought it was peak comedy, since it is infact gay. However, I understand using the word gay in that way gives it a very negative undertone, hence the mouth faster than brain comment.

Now my son and I are usually pretty “edgy” with our humor, this being fairly tame for the stuff we joke about. While probably not appropriate for the situation, it wasn’t our norm for a conversation between us. However, he and his boyfriend were very, very upset and left.

I’m probably the asshole but I thought I would check, and see if yall had some advice on what I can say to fix it. He currently won’t respond to my texts or calls.