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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Obi-Wan_Yaknowme on 2023-08-29 00:13:00.

I (26M)live with my partner (27F)and another couple (25F, 27M) in a small three bedroom. Together for five years. We’ve been living with this couple for 7 months, and known them through work for 3 years.

When we were searching for a flat to move in to, we all had criteria and certain wants. The majority overlapped with the other couples. Two bathrooms for ease of living with shift workers in the house/a spacious kitchen/a living room/outdoor area. Given the current rental market, we knew we couldn’t have everything. One room is massive with an ensuite and seperate entrance to the flat, occupying the top floor, the other is considerably smaller on the first floor, (which become our room), and the third room, is attached to the patio - so this became the spare room (we all agreed to flip a coin). Given the considerable differences in sizes of rooms, it was agreed that the spare room would be used as storage, and for short term guests as we all live away from home and enjoy having family/friends stay with us.

To ruin the peace and serenity, shake up the dynamic and to what feels like generally just irritate me, they want their friend and their partner to move in to the spare room for 6 months, so they can experience the UK. Our cramped little flat of four, is now under threat of increasing by 33%. The four bikes that routinely block our access and egress, now becomes 6. Our bathroom is now communal. The kitchen is trembling in fear, the fridge is more full than my nappy after this tantrum. The real catch? They state there will be no contribution to bills or rent. This couple is not becoming homeless/under threat of unemployment/ facing any financial difficulty.

Now this man’s terms gave me a good chuckle. Our items being stored in the spare room must go to a storage facility as they just can’t bare to live amongst belongings that aren’t there’s. He will orangisethe storage, but we have to pay, no guests would be allowed to sleep on the couch as it would invade his WFH space.

My response was a firm, “no”. Which has been met by follow up YTA messages, and cold shoulder in communal areas. The friend has messaged me desperately explaining that this is a life changing decision and I’m denying him this opportunity. My life would also change if my rent was paid for 6 months too.

I have rebutted with a one month, yes. But I believe any further is a ridiculous request. The other couple don’t seem to understand this won’t affect their private floor, and that I am the devil for denying them of this. subletting this room puts my partner and I at risk of having our contract terminated if discovered.

TL;DR A disgruntled fellow is declared YTA as housemates request their friend and partner stays in the spare bedroom for 6 months, rent free and follow their demands.