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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Time_Difficulty_3466 on 2023-08-29 14:40:47.

We’re not close, to start off with. Our relationship has always been full of conflict since we were kids. She’s now 26 and I’m 24. The invite for her wedding came a few days ago and it came with a note that said if I attend, I will not be seated with family during the ceremony or reception, but at one of the tables with all the “extra guests”. I won’t be in any of the wedding photos either. So reading all this I was like cool, I’ll RSVP no and have a nice day doing my own thing. I have no interest in attending a wedding where I will be stuck around people I do not know and celebrating someone I do not like. Which is exactly what I did. I sent my RSVP back via a link that was listed on the invite.

The rest of my family, even seeing the letter she wrote after they confronted me, believe I am wrong for RSVPing no. Mom said I could have gone to her and dad and they would have straightened out the details in the note, my grandparents said I could still enjoy spending time with them and the rest of the family, my aunt said I am going to raise a lot of eyebrows by not attending my own sister’s wedding and will make them all look bad.

I told them she clearly doesn’t want me there. I clearly don’t want to be there. So why would I go. They all responded that as an adult we all do things we don’t always want to do. Which fair. But this is an optional thing in my opinion.

They believe I’m wrong and have argued against my decision. They say I should listen to them and think about my actions.

AITA?