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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/JewelerOk5317 on 2025-05-13 04:34:41+00:00.

So this happened recently, and I’m still trying to process how it spiraled the way it did.

My wife was out driving with our two daughters when they got a flat tire. The girls, bless them, were super eager to help and begged my wife to let them change it. She told them no, understandably, she probably just wanted it dealt with someone she thought eould do it right, not knowing the kids were fully capable. So she called me and asked if I could come over and handle it.

I Ubered to the parking lot where they were. As soon as I got there, the girls lit up and started begging me to let them do it. A bit of context: a while back, I was working on my project car and the girls helped me swap the wheels. We turned it into a fun, teachable moment, they learned how to use the jack, what order to loosen/tighten bolts, all of it. They were surprisingly good at it, and we really bonded over the whole experience.

So here they were now, dying to show off to their mom how they could change a tire all by themselves. I thought it was kind of awesome. I looked at my wife and gave her a little “Come on…” nudge. She reluctantly agreed.

The girls absolutely crushed it. I supervised, helped with practically nothing, but otherwise they did the whole thing smoothly. I was proud. They were proud. I thought it was a win all around.

The drive home was… quiet. I didn’t think much of it at first. Figured she was tired.

Nope.

Once the girls were in bed, she let me have it. She told me she felt disrespected, she called me to do something she specifically didn’t want the kids to do, and I overruled her in front of them. She said it made her feel ignored, like her judgment didn’t matter, and like I was more focused on turning it into a feel-good moment than actually supporting her when she has made a decision. Then she went to sleep angry.

I apologized, of course. I didn’t realize how deep it went. To me, it was just a tire change and a chance for our daughters to shine a little. But to her, it felt like I brushed aside her authority and needs in the moment.

So yeah. TIFU by turning a simple tire change into a mini family drama and unintentionally disrespecting my wife.

Lesson learned.

TL;DR: Wife asked me to change a flat tire. I pushed her to let the kids do it and she felt disrespected because I undermined her authority. And she felt disrespected.