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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/Wishiwasgoodatthis on 2025-05-13 22:15:59+00:00.

Me 33 and my boyfriend 36 has been together for around 2.5years. Last weekend I was out with a girlfriend and it got a bit more boozy then planned. We had a great time and while waiting for her cab-ride home we met a guy. We started talking to him. Im not usually a very talkative person but at this levele of alkohol i do get more talkative. I was not flirting, its just a happy and friendly state. But when my friend left in the taxi he pushed me toward a wall, started groping me and trying to kiss me. I averted him and tried pushing him away saying “no” and “i don’t want to, please let me go”. I was able to struggle free and run away, catching the next subway home. Once home I broke down. Telling him how scared I got and what happened.

Well, he got mad at me. Telling me I cheated on him and that I am an attentionseeker. Asking me what I told the guy, how I acted towards him. How he could possibly get close enough to do all those things if I didn’t want it. How could I let this happen and how immature I am getting that drunk at “my age”.

Nothing REALLY bad happened, I was able to get out before he was able to do anything more then what could happen standing in a crowded concert really… but it left me feeling sad and I couldn’t shake the smell of him the days after. I thought I could still smell him on me eventhough I showered multiple times and it made me sick.

But I feel myself questioning if I did something wrong. Why did I have to talk to him when he approached us? Why didn’t I get in the cab with my friend instead of taking the subway? And why the fuck is my boyfriend acting like this?

TL;DR my boyfriend thinks it was cheating when a dude groped me without concent.