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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Raging_Octopus710 on 2023-08-29 22:11:46.

My(23F) fiancé(26M) and I are getting married in a month. My fiancé has a really bad relationship with his mom but keeps in contact because he adores his dad. He had a very abusive relationship with her growing up, I won’t go into detail but it was horrible.

From the moment we started wedding planning my fiancé has been clear with not only me but with her that he does not want to slow dance with anyone but me. I am very respectful of that as I also have a toxic relationship with my father (my dad is not invited to my wedding). I don’t want to pressure my fiancé to do anything or dance with someone who is very abusive toward him because it’s his special day as well.

My future MIL messaged me today stating that she wanted to have a dance with her son. I said “You’re going to have to talk about that with him because I don’t think he wants to slow dance with anyone but me”. She then tells me “well I’m going to cut in during your first dance anyway.” Then I said “well I would really like if my fiancé and I’s first dance was just our first dance. I don’t mind you dancing but I really encourage you to talk to hunter first. If he’s okay with it I can add a song for you guys to dance to”

I have yet to get a response from her. My fiancé is going to talk to her tonight and set his boundaries. She is very upset with me and I’m just wondering AITA?