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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Advanced_Sweet_9638 on 2023-08-29 21:52:31.

I’m only 11 weeks, but have been thinking about all things labor and delivery and brought up to my husband yesterday that I would want my mom and two sisters in the room during delivery, but not my MIL.

I love my MIL very much and she is a very sweet and supportive person, but I am very self conscious about my body and I don’t know what kind of state I will be in during labor and don’t want the additional stress of worrying about her looking up my hoo-ha.

Some background to illustrate why I would be uncomfortable: When I went dress shopping for my wedding, my MIL was invited along with my SIL (and my mom and two sisters). I asked everyone to not look at me through the mirror while changing (there was a partition, but you could see if you looked in the mirror). Multiple times, I caught MIL looking at me change. Was so uncomfortable, I asked the girl helping me to get my own room to change in. Then, at another bridal store the same thing happened. There was a curtain that went across the whole room, but the rack holding the dresses prevented in from fully closing. My sisters and mom said my MIL kept straining her neck and trying to look past the curtain. Like I said, love her to death, but I feel like my wishes were not respected and it made me uncomfortable.

When I told my husband this to explain why I felt uncomfortable, he said he’ll support me no matter what but that “it’s not fair” your mom and sisters will be there, but my mom can’t. I tried to explain that my mom and sisters have seen me naked and that I’m obviously more comfortable with them because they are my blood. And they will respect my wishes to not look down at the gore fest going on between my legs if I tell them not to lol not so sure his mom will respect that based on what has happened previously.

Now I know some people will say “Who cares? It’s a natural part of life, you shouldn’t be ashamed or self conscious if your body blah blah blah.” But I can’t help it. I care and nothing is fixing that lol

Also just for reference, my one sister is an ER nurse so it would make me much more at peace knowing she is there to monitor everything that is going on.

Am I wrong?