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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Sudden-Shoe-9309 on 2023-08-30 03:04:36.

Temporary account. English is not my native language, so I apologize for any mistakes.

Here we go, I really need to get this off my chest. My name is Liz, I’m 26 years old. I’ve been openly lesbian since I was 15. I have an older sister named Kim, who is 29. I’m married to Kelly, 28, who is simply the most amazing woman I’ve ever met. Both of us really wanted to have children, and Kelly really wished to experience childbirth. So, we decided to find a sperm donor and Kelly became pregnant. The whole family was incredibly happy with the news and congratulated us on the new baby.

Now, Kim has always been my support. She went with me to LGBT parades, stood up to anyone who judged me or my wife, and was the maid of honor at my wedding. But recently, she started a relationship with a guy named Simon. He’s an extremely conservative Christian and clearly got into my sister’s head. The two of them made uncomfortable jokes throughout the pregnancy, implying that Kelly had “turned straight” and had cheated on me with a man to have a “real” family. Needless to say, these comments hurt us deeply, even more coming from my sister. They got engaged and got married in the meantime. I was the maid of honor, but Kim didn’t want Kelly to attend and only allowed her to go because our parents and siblings threatened not to go if she didn’t.

When Kelly was 7 months pregnant, she had a car accident that resulted in the loss of the baby and nearly took her life. Saying that we were devastated is an understatement. She and I sank into depression, and Kelly even came close to overdosing on medication. She barely survived. My family was our anchor. My older brother, John (32), moved to my house to help us, me and my wife, during this difficult time.

But you know what Kim and her husband did? Simon had the audacity to say that losing the baby was a “blessing” for the child, because then she wouldn’t have been born into a “dysfunctional” family and wouldn’t be raised by a couple driven by “lust” instead of the “true love” God had planned. And Kim? Well, she defended him and even added that it really was God’s will that the child wouldn’t be born without a father. I was extremely furious and cut contact with him.

A few days ago, I learned that Kim had caught Simon in bed with another woman, apparently her best friend; he admitted to the affair and fled to another city to live with his lover. During this mess, Kim was pregnant, but the stress led her to miscarry. The most astonishing thing is that she didn’t even know about the pregnancy until the tragedy happened. When she called me crying and shared the news, I coldly replied that it really was God’s will for the child not to be born without a father.

Now, our family is divided. Some believe Kim got what she deserved, while others think I overreacted and that she’s going through a difficult time. So I want the opinion of you internet strangers: AITA?