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DO NOT COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS. I am NOT OP. Original post by u/NectarineNeither7912 in r/TrueOffMyChest and her own profile.
NOTE: This post is very long so I’m including a summary for earlier posts. Read the earlier BORUs for the full text of the posts.
trigger warnings: teen pregnancy, coercion, drunk driving, severe bodily injury
mood spoiler: from complicated to ever more complicated
My parents are forcing me to give my baby up for adoption - May 17, 2024
OOP is 16 and pregnant by her 18 yr old FWB. She’s been pregnant for 15 weeks and it’s too late for an abortion where she lives. Her parents don’t believe in abortion and tell her that her punishment for getting pregnant is that she’ll have to go through with it and give the baby up for adoption. They don’t want her to ruin her life and refuse to help raise the baby in any way. OOP didn’t get an abortion earlier as she was scared, and she doesn’t want to give up her baby for adoption but feels cornered. Her FWB knows and thinks adoption is the best option.
My parents are forcing me to give my baby up for adoption - update - June 24, 2024
OOP is reluctantly looking at families for adoption. Her FWB is is heading off to military school. OOP thinks of getting married to him since the military would pay for medical care and a residence. OOP can’t decide on a family as none of them seem good enough to her for her baby.
My parenting are forcing me to give my baby up for adoption - update having a boy - July 2, 2024
OOP has an ultrasound and finds the baby is a boy. OOP wishes she knew she could get abortion pills mailed to her earlier but has decided to keep her baby. Her parents criticise her and call her a slut. OOP is unsure if her FWB would stay with her if she kept the baby.
My parents are forcing me to give my baby up for adoption - I’m getting married and moving in with strangers - July 25, 2024
OOP is 24 weeks pregnant now and has just turned 17. Her parents are still trying to force an adoption, and tell her she is on her own if she decides to keep the baby. Her FWB’s parents are willing to support her if she keeps the baby. Her parents are refusing to keep her till she turns 18, and say that once she’s married, she’s not their problem. OOP can’t understand how her parents can approve of her being married at 17, but not support her in finishing her GED. She could still get back in their good graces if she went along with the adoption but knows things would never be the same between them.
OOP updated after the earlier BORU post was made. - Aug 5, 2024
OOP makes it clear that she is not interested in adoption. Instead she asks for information from any military spouses on what to expect. She also asks for people to help out with career suggestions after school that pay well. She and her FWB are getting married and her parents keep telling her her plan is dumb. She also clarifies it wasn’t statutory rape and that they both simply messed up.
My parents are forcing me to give my baby up for adoption - another update - Aug 23, 2024
OOP is feeling sad about her parents abandoning her and feels like an outcast at school as a pregnant student. She isn’t sure whether to finish school or drop out and get a GED. Her future in-laws have setup a room for her and painted it her favourite color.
My parents are forcing me to give my baby up for adoption - update, I’m married now - Sep 16, 2024
OOP is 32 weeks pregnant and due in 8 weeks. She and her FWB finally got married at the courthouse. As her family didn’t show up, she requested that his family not be present when they got married. His mother got them cake and gave her jewelry, but OOP was freaking out and feeling uncomfortable. After that, OOP and his parents returned home while her hubby headed to military tech school.
From here, OOP started updating on her own profile.
Another update to my post about my parents trying to make me give my baby up for adoption - the baby is almost here - Oct 22, 2024
OOP is living with her in-laws and around a month out from her due date. She is changing her last name as she doesn’t want to be linked to her parents any more. Her parents haven’t spoken to her. She feels bad about not wanting her in-laws at her wedding and apologised to them. She still feels like a guest living at their place. Her husband is off at the military and will be tied up at least for a year, with short breaks for Thanksgiving and Christmas. She is continuing at her school instead of switching to remote schooling.
OOP updated after the earlier BORU was posted - Oct 31, 2024
OOP is close to her due date. Everything is ready for her baby, though she still has a hard time thinking about it. She talks to her hubby a few times a week.
My baby is here - Nov 10, 2024
OOP’s baby is born on Nov 3rd. Her mom was there for the birth which was awkward. Her mom was critical of everything and disliked the name OOP picked for her child. OOP is confused on why her parents are trying to pretend like everything is ok after having kicked her out. Her hubby came home for a few days to meet his child.
OOP then posted to r/inlaws
How do you deal with a MIL that’s TOO nice? - Nov 23, 2024
OOP talks about how her MIL goes out of her way to make her feel comfortable, but ironically, this makes OOP feel somewhat uncomfortable since her own mother was never this affectionate. She understands MIL is only trying to be helpful but still feels awkward about all the help.
OOP updated after this BORU was posted - Dec 27, 2024
OOP finished her semester from home. She finds being a mom very hard, though she doesn’t regret her decision. She got a few gifts from her parents on Christmas but they didn’t come by. OOP spent Christmas with her ILs. Her hubby is home for the holidays. He’s suggested moving out to where he’s stationed but OOP isn’t ready for that yet. They had sex in the shower. She clarifies that she is not considering adoption. She is looking into trades to see if anything interests her. Her parents felt that she should go to college, not get into a trade, and told her that if she went into a trade, she was on her own. OOP realises that her parents only “support” her if she does exactly what they tell her to do. She decides not to raise her son that way.
I’m so sad - Jan 2, 2025
I’m so sad and I don’t know what to do about it. I miss my family. I’m hurt by my parents and I seem to realize more each day the different things my parents did that good parents wouldn’t do, but I still miss them. I can’t believe they didn’t even ask about seeing me on Christmas. They just dropped gifts off for me here, didn’t even give them to me in person. I talked to my mom on the phone twice on Christmas. She said she was going to call me today, but never did. My dad only texts me, pretty short texts. He said happy new year and then when I tried to initiate a conversation, nothing.
My “husband” went back to the base where he’s at for his training. Sorry, I still can’t say husband with a straight face. How am I 17 years old with a husband, and my parents signed off on this? I would never let my son get married at 17. Today I’m having one of those days that I …
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