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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Automatic-Cable-8742 on 2023-08-30 08:21:03.

I (34m) currently live with my parents due to some personal circumstances. My sister (36) has 3 kids (4m, 3f, 1f).

My sister and her husband (36) are planning a 5 day trip next month and have asked my mom at a family gathering if she could keep the kids for 5 days. I was standing right there and jokingly say “5 days?! omg not all 3, we’ll take 2” while putting on a smiley-exhausted face. (I was suggesting they split the kids between the grandmas)

An important piece of information: the toddlers (4 and 3) are super attached to me, insist on sleeping in my bed next to me when they sleep over, insist on me bathing them and playing with them, and usually throw a tantrum if I happen to have plans when they’re over and need to leave the house. Now I don’t mind that at all, I love them dearly and love playing with them but by the time their parents pick them up I’m exhausted.

All that to say that them staying over is not something I can ignore, I will have to be heavily involved.

So after my comment my BIL looks at me and goes: “I was actually asking your mom it’s her house…” I reply: “I mean sure, but I’m the one taking care of them 80% of the time they’ll be all over me as usual…” And then he goes: “if that bothers you you can always sleep somewhere else… you don’t have to be at home” I was too shocked to reply and didn’t want to cause a scene so I didn’t say anything. He then added after seeing my discomfort: “you could even stay at our place it will be empty” which I ignored.

AITAH for suggesting that? Or was my BIL over the line?

(Also my mom agreed that she’d rather take 2 as well, she has a very active social life and wouldn’t want to be stuck at home for 5 days, but told me it wasn’t my place to say that and he was warranted in his response).