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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Weary-Wish-38 on 2023-08-30 10:34:50.

My sister and I were both given nature names by our parents. My sister used to be Lark and I’m Indigo (named after the plant). Our mom changed her name to a nature name when she was 19. For our parents our names needed to be easy to say and spell but they wanted uncommon names. My sister was never super fond of her name. But around the age of 16 she got really annoyed by her name and told our parents she wanted to change it. They offered her support and asked if she wanted to change it then or wait. She decided to change her name then but couldn’t decide what she wanted to be so she waited. She ended up changing her name at 20 to a more common and classic/timeless name. Think Emily or Elizabeth. At the time she changed her name my sister said we should both change our names and send a message to our parents that they fucked up. I told her I loved my name so wouldn’t be changing it. She asked me if I didn’t want an ordinary name and I said no.

Fast forward to today and my sister met up with an old friend of hers from school. This friend was not around when my sister changed her name. So when they first met up she was still calling her Lark. My sister corrected her and the friend accepted it. My sister came to my house the very next day and said that her friend had acted so surprised to hear she changed her name. She asked the friend why and the friend said she always thought we had the coolest names and she was always so jealous and it surprised her that she didn’t like the name.

While my sister was at my house she got so angry about what her friend had said. She even took me aback with the venom she spoke with. She was like how could anyone prefer Lark to “current name” and why would anyone be jealous of a dumb name like it. She told me she despises when people compliment the name or when she has to correct people who don’t know her name today.

This isn’t the first time my sister got annoyed with people who were shocked that she changed her name and it’s not the first time she has admitted wanting to yell in the face of someone who complimented her old name. This time was the most angry she got though. But it has been a thing for 5 years now.

My sister kept ranting away and then she started saying our parents were shitty parents who only thought of themselves and not us. I told her she needed to calm down because she didn’t like her name and they supported her in changing it. But I love my name and our parents made no mistake in naming me. She told me I probably loved her old name too and also don’t understand her changing it and she was starting to say fuck me and everything when I told her that she was too extreme about the thought that some people will like her old name. I also pointed out that she ASKED the friend why she was surprised and all the friend was is honest. I told her she has the name she chose now but it’s not healthy to be so irrationally angry over this.

My sister didn’t take it well and I feel like I should have seen this coming. AITA?