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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Uphihion on 2023-08-30 16:26:05.

I (28F) am currently expecting my first child with my husband (30M). We’ve been married for two years, and our relationship has been strong and loving. Before we met, he was engaged to another woman, “Lila,” who tragically passed away in a car accident a month before their wedding. I have always been understanding and supportive about his grief.

When we found out we were expecting a baby girl, we were both ecstatic. We started discussing baby names, and out of the blue, he suggested naming her Lila. I was taken aback. I understand he loved Lila and her memory is dear to him, but it felt strange to me to name our child after his late fiancée.

I expressed my concerns, mentioning how it might be confusing and painful for both of us, especially him. But he insists that it’s a way to honor her memory and said that Lila had always wanted kids. I can’t shake off the feeling that he’s trying to recreate or replace what he had with Lila, and it’s been causing a rift between us.

My family and friends are split on the issue. Some say that I should understand his feelings, while others believe that it’s unfair to me and our child to live under the shadow of his past relationship.

So, AITA for not wanting to name our baby after my husband’s late fiancée?