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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Fickle-East-1114 on 2023-08-30 19:34:13.

Hi guys, this is my first post and english isn’t my native language.

So earlier this year a girl I ONCE hooked up with texted me and told me she has a 1 year old daughter and I might be the father. I didn’t wanna believe her but we took a paternity test and it turned out I really am the father.

She didnt tell me she was pregnant. She didn’t tell me when my daughter was born… no… she only told me when my daughter was 1 year old!! This and other circumstances led to me not wanting anything to do with her or my daughter. Of course I will pay child support, but she didn’t give me any chance to bond with her.

Well, my mother LOVES children and immediately got in contact with the mother and met the child. They’ve been very close and meeting regularly. I have no problem with that AT ALL. I just don’t wanna meet her myself.

Okay so now to the story: My mom broke her foot and needs help at home, so I ‘moved’ back in to support her. I helped her with her cats, with food and household stuff.

A few days ago I met with a friend and came home very late and slept until 1PM when I was woken up by some voices coming out of my moms bedroom. Mind you, she doesnt have a door and I’m sleeping in the living room, also without a door. So I listened to the voices and it really was the mother and my child. I didn’t wanna meet them, see them, hear them or whatever. I was so mad that my mom would do this to me without waking me up so I can leave…

I just got up and left the house. Later that day I got an angry text from my mom AND my grandma saying I’m a horrible son for just leaving. My grandma said some hurtful stuff about me being like my father.

I’m so confused right now… am I really the asshole for just leaving because she invited two people I didn’t wanna see?