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Am I [24M] overreacting or is this enough reason to break up with my [27F] girlfriend.

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Am I [24M] overreacting or is this enough reason to break up with my [27F] girlfriend Oct 31, 2017

First time asking for relationship advice online, so bear with me.

I have been with my gf for about 5 years. We both still live at home with parents while going to college. Over 5 years, we have had very happy moments, but also some bad moments.

One thing about her that has always driven me nuts is that she is ALWAYS late to everything. I mean like a daily thing. If we planned to see friends at 3pm, she wont be ready till 6pm.

It also extends to doing things on time. For example, this is the 3rd year in a row she did not give me a gift for on my bday, saying she has it ready but she’ll give it to me later. Well, its been about 2 months since. Another example is this past Saturday, we we’re supposed to dress up for Halloween and meet friends for a night out at 5pm, yet she wasn’t ready until 9pm, at which time my friends were all long gone.

I realize some people just make a habit of being late, but it’s been 5 years and I am not joking when I say this happens every other time we see each other. The worst part for me is that she will always have a random excuse and won’t admit fault at being late. She’ll blame traffic, her parents, got an important phone call, etc.

This has really gotten on my nerves and we’ve argued about this several times before. Before I met her, I was sort of a perfectionist and would usually be on time to mostly everything, but ever since I met her I have become more and more like her. It’s gotten to the point where I don’t even want to make plans with her because I just get lazy at the thought of her.

She is a very caring, nice girl and I do love her, but I am at a point where I’ve basically had enough of this. On 3 seperate occasions, I’ve been really close to breaking up with her over this before but she has made false promises of changing this behavior.

Am I overreacting or is this a legitimate reason to break up?

tl:dr Over past 5 years gf has constantly been late and seems to always make excuses. Should we break up over this?

TOP COMMENTS

Chilo69

Ask your self this: if you drop her and she gets picked up by one of your leaguemates, will you be ok with that?

She may continue to put up trash stats, but she may turn it around and make you regret this come playoffs.

jackcatalyst

That right there is a fucking trap. Just because their points go up for a week or two due to some freak plays doesn’t mean they aren’t doing the same things you had issues with in the relationship. They still won’t take you to the championship. If you are dropping someone then you need to be all in.

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Schtip

Love how this is tagged as player discussion lol

cuteintern

playa discussion

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Camelsandham

She’s like Crowell. Always promising to produce results week in and week out with occasional signs of massive potential and “could this be the time its permanent” change. It’ll never happen though, drop her for a flyer

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rpablo23

She’s 27 and does shit like this? RUN

thegroovemonkey

Yeah, you can wait to see if a younger player improves but very rarely do we see somebody break out at 27 and turn into an MVP type player. Sure it happens, but not with people who can’t be bothered to show up to practice on time and put in the work

Edit: Obviously posted in wrong sub but actually got some good feedback in here. Just to clarify, she’s not always 3-4 hours late, usually it’s more like 1 to 2. Also, she is also late to class pretty often (15-30 mins), but she’s actually on time for work usually.

Edit 2: Left for a few hours and come back to see this is the top post ever on r/fantasyfootball! Seriously, holy crap. I never thought such a simple mistake would get this amount of upvotes. Thanks to everyone who contributed and for the gold. I have more than enough feedback to know what to do. Also, thanks to the r/fantasyfootball community, although I didn’t mean to post here I can see the bond this sub gives us. I’m also very sorry such a ridiculous post that has nothing to do with FF has made it to the top. I know a lot of you were disappointed, thinking I’d drop some sort of clever shitpost, but I’m really just a dude who was looking for relationship advice. Well, I clearly found it.

OOP added an update to a post asking about him over 2 years later

Update 1 Jan 16, 2020

Hey guys, OP of that post here. I’ve been gone for a few days and come back to see this post! I haven’t been in the sub in a while cause I’m barely getting over losing in my championship by less than 5 pts with Lamar on my roster! 😭.

I know I haven’t updated with a new post. I have a few reasons why. The post really was a mistake on my end (no, really I swear), I meant to post on r/relationships from my reddit app but it was like 4AM and I was half asleep and accidentally changed the sub. I was honestly really embarrassed as I’m usually a private person. The reason I left it up was because I thought mods would delete it eventually, so I just went to sleep, only to wake up to thousands of replies and DMs. I really enjoyed reading so many comments.

I know I dissapointed so many people with my post because they thought it would lead into some hilarious football reference. I got some hate in the DMs and in the comments as well. That is part of the reason why I never posted an update, I just didn’t want to ruin the integrity of this sub.

Now seeing so many people in an update during the fantasy off-season, it makes me happy to see that many of you enjoyed it. Also, I got some really informative replies that really helped out my relationship. And yes, I am now a 26m and still currently with the same 29f lol. I showed her the post and she read through several of the replies and let’s just say she got a wake up call.

Although I can’t say it’s a perfect relationship or anything like that, the being hours late to everything is mostly under control now. I found out that like in fantasy, sometimes I just gotta bench her when she’s not performing too well and hope she does better the next time. I started leaving her behind when she was late af and that seems to work really well. We also looked into ADHD as some people commented, and apparently we both have a mild form of it! But this is relatively new info and I want to get a 2nd opinion.

I’ll probably post an update sometime this coming season, but for now I want all of you to know that I am still in this relationship, she still is a GF1 in most stats, and I have all of you to thank for the great advice!

OOP Added 1 more coment/update 6 months later to another post asking about him

Update 2 Oct 27, 2020

It was weird man, I usually browse reddit on my phone and that night we’d gotten into an argument that had my mind thinking and not letting me sleep. I made that post at around 6 AM, having not slept all night. Originally I meant to post it to r/relationship_advice but I kept questioning whether I should post my life on reddit. I deleted my post on there but not before I copied it, just in case I changed my mind. Later on I decided to just wing it and post it, but I accidentally posted it here by total accident.

I caught the mistake when so many people started messaging me so soon, but I noticed a mod had commented on it as well. I thought nothing of it and left it to the mods to delete, then went to sleep as it was already morning. As soon as I wake up and look at reddit, I’m shocked to see how crazy it had become! It was insane! All over a simple mistake.

At first I was disappointed in myself cause it’s totally unrelated to fantasy football and I feel people who read the post were waiting for that Josh Gordon punchline but it never came. I had a few people send me angry messages, but they were heavily outnumbered by so many people offering valuable advice. I did end up posting the same on r/relationship_advice but this sub gave me much better advice that that has helped my relationship get better ever since. So I’m thankful for that and it’s something I will always remember!

Edit: Yes! Luckily I am still with the same GF! Thanks to my fantasybros!

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