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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Numerous-Fudge8647 on 2023-08-30 23:40:04.

I am honestly confused by this entire situation. I will be using fake names obviously and I would love to hear your judgement.

My brother Michael (35M) who is a single father to my nephew (David - 8M) was in our city for a business meeting. We see each other for Christmas or big family events sometimes but he’s quite a workaholic so we don’t really talk much. He dropped David off with us for a day since he had meetings the entire time.

I (33F) live with my wife (Caroline - 35F) and our twins (Harry 8M and Maeve 8F). While David was with us we tried to make the visit as fun as we could. We had a mini pool party together, threw a dance party, and played video games.

After Caroline was home we went out to a restaurant all together and got David a few things as we did for our twins while we went shopping on the way back. Overall, it was a great experience for cousins to bond and David was a sweetheart. Michael picked him up and thanked us for everything.

The next week Michael called us and was fuming. He said we shouldn’t have taken David out for dinner without letting him know. He also said he couldn’t believe we were inappropriate in front of his son. I had to think a lot about this because I honestly couldn’t find anything to be inappropriate in our household.

Michael explained it was me kissing my wife when she came home, hugging her ‘every damn second’ and showing affection towards David. He was also quite repulsed by the idea of all of us snuggling to watch a disney movie. He was mad because he said David was going to be a man and his stay at our house has confused him.

I honestly was at a loss for words. I told him I wouldn’t apologise for these things but I said I think he is getting a lot of things wrong. He told me I would always act decent in Christmas with our families and he thought we’d show his son the same respect. It is true, but at the same time it is a completely different scenario.

Aita here? Should I have asked about all these activities?