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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/MousePiddle on 2023-08-31 06:30:01.

My wife is generally physically lazy before she was pregnant. But now it’s on a level where if I don’t feed her every meal, she won’t eat food. She will wait till I’m home to feed her something. We will eat out wherever she wants to eat and I’ll cook her food. Not like gourmet stuff but I’ll make sure she’s fed without asking. I’ll cut up fruit and give her sour stuff cause it helps with her nausea. I do all the groceries, all the laundry, all the dishes including hers and mine, walk the dog every single day and the list goes on and on.

I do almost everything and I’m feeling burnt out. I came back from basketball late at night and I’m exhausted and didn’t eat anything and she didn’t eat anything. Even though we had leftover food. She didn’t wanna eat it cause she was tired of it. I cut up strawberries for her and go shower. I ask her to take out stuff so I can cook dinner for myself. She ends up actually cooking for me and when I come down and I thank her. Then she turns around and asks me. “Can you cook more?” and I said “like what??” in a really pissy way because I was pissed she had the audacity to ask me that.

(When I literally feed her almost every meal she eats and do like every chore. We hired cleaning ladies too. That come once a month to help.)

She gets extremely angry slams the door upstairs and said “I wish you knew how it feels (to be pregnant) and I’m in disbelief. I tried communicating and apologizing for how I said it. I rubbed her back and kissed her head and the moment I tried to explain myself she yells at me saying I don’t want to talk about this shit right now I’m pregnant and cranky and starts crying. And says I get so defensive. I just left the room thinking wtf am I supposed to do. I can’t even say my feelings. She shuts down.

AITA for not being empathetic enough to my pregnant wife?