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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Intelligent-Ant-346 on 2023-08-31 09:25:48.

My sister and I grew up in poverty, were homeless as kids, and never were taught how to manage money or make it last. When we were adults we got jobs and moved in together, I made minimum wage while she made decent money. I would also watch her cat for her when she was at work (worked flyin-fly out). One day we got into an argument because I got accepted for a well paying job that unfortunately meant I also would not be home for a couple days at a time, she lost it and said if i couldnt take care of her cat then I had to leave or pay all the rent so she could hire a cat sitter. She then threatened me with violence and getting rid of all my belongings if I didnt go immediately. So I was made homeless in the middle of winter, luckily I was able to crash on my friends couch until I saved up for a new place. A couple months later my sister and I talked and she apologized, I accepted the apology but our relationship hasn’t been the same. now its been about 3 years since then. My sister called and said that she has missed a lot of work due to this or that and needed help with money for rent, I paid her rent because even though she made me homeless I dont want her to go through that. Now a month later she called again and is asking for more money and is promising to eventually pay it back. I honestly have little trust that she will because she never learned to manage money. I told her that the position she put me in sucks because she literally made me homeless and didnt care about my financial struggle at all when I had nothing. She said she didn’t know what to say because I was right and it was shitty of her. I feel bad because I hate hurting people and I know how bad the price of living is right now. So AITA for not helping my sister finacially?

Edit: I forgot to add that from the outside her life doesn’t look great at the moment, and appears to be falling apart. I feel like she may do something super drastic to herself if she loses her place because she is very impulsive and has a history of depression. So yeah I feel like im in a very tight spot.