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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/PigeonSoldier69 on 2023-08-31 20:58:20.

I was in an an abusive relationship for 4 years that i will forever be suffering from the trauma of. This man would take any little thing I say and absolutely twist it. Use it as an excuse to punish me verbally and physically. To protect myself, i had to learn critical thinking skills to navigate conversation. He made me believe everything was my fault, so I hyper analysed every little thing I’d say to ensure I wouldn’t upset him. Today, years later, i still find myself hyper analysing everything i say. Making sure people know my exact intentions, that they cant misinterpret anything I say, and acknowledgement of every little thing everyone says and does. I have so much attention to detail in conversation to protect myself. I’m constantly complemented on my communication skills, but I hate it so much. I hate how I developed this skill as a trauma response. Its a good skill to have, but the cost was so high. Im literally having a traumatic response every time i talk to someone.