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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/FigureFeisty5060 on 2023-09-01 01:55:53.

I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes. Pre-preganancy, we would go to my inlaws house every month or so. Just the 4 of us, so not large family gatherings.

When I was diagnosed my hubby told tell his mom so that she was aware and to ask if we should bring something for me to eat and to let her know that we were doing our best to not have sweets around to reduce temptation. She insisted that she would provide all the food and that there would be lots of options for me.

Problem was my MIL served food that i couldn’t eat. I had a small tossed salad and a side of veggies. She also served a dessert of fresh strawberries which she macerated with sugar covered with whip cream and an apple pie with ice cream.

After the visit I cried during the whole drive home. I was hungry, upset and hormonal. My hubby spoke with his mom, but she thought it was reasonable for me to eat what i could from what was served. She didn’t seem to understand why everyone else needed to refrain just because of me.

I skipped the next dinner saying I wasn’t feeling well, but I’ve decided that I won’t attend any more dinners until I give birth. My inlaws can come to our house so that I can control the food served. My hubby knows how important this is for the health of our baby, but he’s concerned about my MIL making things very difficult. He’s asking me to consider letting my MIL host us but we just bring some food. Eliminating sugar is very difficult for me, so I prefer to not be around such temptation. I wouldn’t take such a hard stance, but she doesn’t seem to think gestational diabetes is something serious and has even said I need to think moderation. The complications for baby can be very severe and I want to be careful.

WIBTA for putting my foot down and not attend meals at my inlaws while pregnant?