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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Thick-Function-7234 on 2023-09-01 01:09:55.

My husband (48m) has been a stay at home parent for the past 7 years. I (48f) usually work from home, but occasionally travel for a few days overnight once a month. We decided he was going to stay home when our two youngest two boys (5 & 6) were born. They are both in school full-time and he swore up and down that once that happened he would start getting things done that needed to get done around the house (basic maintenance like weeding the yard, cleaning the house, calling electricians for quotes). That has not happened. A typical day for him is to wake up after I’ve started the morning routine with the kids, sit in the living room and check his mail, and then take the kids to the bus stop. After they are dropped off, he walks on the treadmill for 30 or so minutes, takes a shower and then disappears until it’s time to meet the kids after school. I keep track of all the kids’ school stuff (going through backpacks, returning papers, volunteering for events), take kids to drs appointments, make drs appointments, meet with teachers, do all their laundry and put them to bed every night I am home. I schedule activities for them and register them for any extra curricular activities. This afternoon I came downstairs from working. He hadn’t done any dishes, hadn’t run the roomba, didn’t do any weeding or dispose of rotting yard waste that he left in a wheelbarrow in our backyard 3 weeks ago. He walked on the treadmill, walked the dog, took a shower and then picked up a prescription for me. He then proceeded to provide detailed explanations for why I shouldn’t be taking the meds I’m prescribed. When I realized he did no work today, I asked him if everything was ok, because nothing got done. He told me to shut up that he wasn’t going to let me say that to him. I told him he needed to keep up his end of our stay at home deal by being the “house manager” he claims he is. This is a long term issue that I am fed up with. AITA for being upset and wanting him to do more?