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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Significant_Cash5628 on 2023-09-01 08:58:46.

My dad and I have always done this overnight trip once a year where we go to my grandparents cabin and hang out. This started before I can even remember. There are photos of us there, just the two of us. Mom didn’t come when she was alive and we kept it up after she died.

Last year dad married Sarah. Sarah has a son Jake (8). I’m 15.

So dad and I had planned our trip for this year and then Jake asked if he could come. Dad told Jake this was just for me and him, and that we could do something else another time. Sarah said it wouldn’t kill us to let Jake join and since it was father/son time, he should be there since dad is the other father figure Jake has. So dad said he could come and asked me to be okay with it. I told him I wasn’t and that there are other things he coin join in for but this was always our thing. Sarah said I could let my “little brother” join.

I waited a few days and the plans were still Jake comes. So I told my dad I wasn’t going anymore and that I didn’t want Jake to intrude on that but since I had no say, I was taking myself out of the equation. Sarah heard me say this and said I couldn’t pull out because Jake wanted time with me as badly as he wanted time with dad. I told her I didn’t want the cabin trip to include Jake and it was never meant to include anyone else. She asked dad if he was seriously going to let me just decide to pull out almost last minute. He said it wasn’t going to be any good if he had to force me to go.

The very next day dad decided to drop the cabin trip. Jake was upset and Sarah was furious at me and she said this was all my fault and I was such a spoiled little brat. She said Jake wanted to join us and be included and seen as a part of the family, one of the boys, and I shit all over him. I told her Jake goes bowling with my dad once a month, that dad helps him document bugs. He has his own things with dad and he joins us for other stuff. That I should be allowed one tradition that has been there for years and has always just been for me and dad. Sarah said I was still spiteful and hurt an 8 year old.

I should also add that dad has told me we’ll do the trip just us around Halloween because he knows I was right and it should be kept for just us.

AITA?