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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/NotThatJoel on 2025-06-24 01:30:48+00:00.

I 40m, have a young daughter in elementary school who met a friend during Halloween. Trick-or-treating has kind of slowed down in our area, and we only got a handful of trick-or-treaters. My daughter recognized one that went to her school. Turns out they live right down the street. We set up a play date. The dad, we’ll call him Frank, was trick-or-treating with her, so I gave him my number and I got his.

The first few play dates Frank and I hung out and seemed to get along pretty well. One time while the girls played at our house and my wife was watching them, my son and I took Frank to the driving range. It was nice, because he said he doesn’t do things like that or get out that often. After a couple of playdates, the girls wanted to have a sleepover at the friend’s house. We were totally fine with that. Frank‘s wife, Fran (again names are changed but selected for a reason), greeted me when I dropped off my daughter. I told her that if my daughter needed anything to call or text me and that Frank has my number. She sent me a text and I saved her in my phone.

The sleepover went great, we ended up having a couple more playdates, but with school and other activities, overtime the playdates kind of fizzled out . One day driving home, my daughter asked if she could see her friend again, as it had been a while. I told her that it was a good idea. As we pull into our driveway and I’m waiting for the garage door to open, I quickly compose a text message to Frank so I won’t forget. I also thought it would be nice to maybe go to the driving range again.

This is the message. “Hey! We need to do another playdate. Not you and me, the girls. But if you want to do something just me and you as well, that would be fine 😉” The garage door opens. I pull in and don’t give it another thought for a few hours. My daughter then asks if they have said anything. I said I don’t think so, but I’ll check. I then look at my phone and see that I sent Fran a text message. Fran! FRAN! Not Frank! FRAN!

My heart sinks into my chest. I start to panic as I open the message I sent to Fran. I reread it, and it now has a whole different meaning. The message sent to my daughter‘s friends, Mom, FRANK’S WIFE says, “Hey! We need to do another play date. Not you and me, the girls. But if you want to do something just me and you as well, that would be fine 😉” WINKY FACE!?!?!?!?

I start losing it. I immediately text them that it was a mistake. I meant to send that to Frank. I was trying to be funny sending it to him. Trying to hint that we could hit up the driving range again.

I have always worried about being misunderstood through text messages. So I am overexplaining a ton. They have Android, and it doesn’t tell me if they’ve read the messages. I call her and him, mostly him. He finally answers. I explained to him what happened and he says, “Oh, I’m sure it’s fine. She’s visiting with some friends.” My wife says I need to stop and let them make the next move. I am so embarrassed. I feel like I’m in an episode of Seinfeld. Did I just ruin one of my daughter‘s friendships?

Edit- Made paragraphs for easier reading.

TL;DR I accidentally sent a text to my buddy’s wife (whose name is very similar to his name) that was supposed to be a harmless joke for him but turned out to be very, very suggestive when sent to her…