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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Individual-Order-402 on 2023-09-01 14:11:41.

I 25F have been married to my husband 27M for 3 years now. I have finished my law study 1 year ago. I am currently 2 months pregnant with our first child. My husband has his own company where he works. When we got married he wanted me to sign a prenup which stated that I am not entitled to any of his assets if we get a divorce and he is not entitled to my assets. (I have significantly less than him). My husband said he didn’t want me to work for any boss or whatsoever. We are not struggling financially and he gives me money but I still want to make something for myself as well. My husband is renting homes as well and he gives me the rent of 2 houses on top of everything else. So he said I don’t have to work. I told my husband that I am gonna work and we got in a fight. He asked why I insisted and I said “let’s say you leave me today then what? I won’t have anything left for myself besides what I already had. I don’t want to depend on you for everything I want to be able to handle myself if I have to”. This happened 4 month ago before I got pregnant.

2 months ago my husband surprised me with my own office. I found out the office was in his name (2 weeks ago) and I asked him to put it in my name as it is my office and I am the one who is working here. He said no and said that it doesn’t matter because we are a team. I told him that he was the one who didn’t want me working for a boss so he should put the office in my name then. We again got in a fight and he accused me of planning to leave him once our child is born. I again explained that I just want to be independent and make my own money. He said that the office being in his name doesn’t change it and that I don’t trust him. I told him that if I am the one managing everything and going there every day than the office is mine and should be in my name. My MIL has been calling me none stop to tell me that I am TA and she is saying I am trying to get his money. Which is not the case at all. I feel like I might be TA for asking this and my husband is now thinking I don’t trust him. So AITA?

Update: I see some people are concerned whether I have a personal account or not. Yes I do have an personal account. The money I get goes there. And the prenup is meant for our own assets. Joint assets are to be spilt if we get a divorce or something. But we have almost 0 joint assets he puts almost everything in his name. The only thing we share is a an appartement (where we don’t live) and the car.